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Domestic Discipline is an important and valuable part of a couple’s life together. For many couples, it has turned their married life around. Where there was conflict, now there is love. Where there was disharmony, now there is peace. The central activity in the Domestic Discipline lifestyle is the discipline of the misbehaving woman. Judiciously applied corporal punishment is used as a tool to educate her to be more loving, obedient, honest, respectful and submissive. When a woman’s HOH (Head of Household) has to discipline his woman for her own good, he is fulfilling his role as the masculine leader of his relationship and his family. The disciplinary process in Domestic Discipline is a procedure in which the woman is disciplined with justice and love by her husband.
Once a couple has been using Domestic Discipline for a reasonable amount of time, it will start to become an integral part of their life together. The woman’s HOH will begin to learn how often he needs to discipline his wife for misbehavior, how often she needs to be reminded of her responsibilities via Maintenance Discipline spankings and what kind of feminine misbehavior she is most often guilty of. He will institute regular Maintenance Discipline at a fixed interval – daily, weekly, fortnightly, monthly or some other interval. He will learn to discipline his woman more effectively and lovingly, so that she is regularly and reliably brought to tears when she is punished. He will become more expert not only at the various physical techniques of spanking that are used in Domestic Discipline, but also more expert in the psychological techniques of Domestic Discipline – scolding his woman and humbling her in order to facilitate her submission and her learning.
The woman too will become more accustomed to being disciplined. She will learn to submit more readily to her HOH. She will learn to submit more readily to her punishment, when she has deserved it. She will become more familiar with the procedures involved with disciplining her for misbehavior. She will grow in her femininity, her submission, her respect, her obedience, her honesty and her love.
Ritual is a significant factor in human affairs. Many of the most important events in our lives are marked by age old rituals – birth, marriage, death and spiritual and religious activities. Throughout history, we have used ritual to invest an event with additional symbolic resonance. Ritual takes an activity beyond the habitual and adds significance and resonant power to it.
When we talk of ritual in relation to Domestic Discipline, we are not talking about burning candles and incense during a woman’s punishment spanking. Religious ritual is only one of many kinds of ritual. It is neither necessary nor appropriate to turn a Domestic Discipline session into a religious ritual. The ritual aspect of Domestic Discipline is the aspect that seems almost like habit – every time the woman is disciplined, she is disciplined in a similar way. Every discipline may not be identical, but each HOH develops a process for disciplining his woman that becomes almost habitual. He automatically knows what to do next, because he has disciplined her successfully before. She also knows what to do next, because she too is familiar with the disciplinary process that her HOH has established.
Habit is like the poor relation of ritual. Habit is something we develop automatically whenever we repeat an action more than a few times. It becomes ingrained into our memory. But habit can be often quite mindless. Brushing your teeth is a habit that requires almost no brain power to perform. You have done it so many times that your actions are automatic. It leaves no imprint on your mind or your heart, because the habitual nature of teeth brushing tends to remove almost all meaning.
When an HOH disciplines his woman for misbehavior, he should not allow the process to become habitual, lest it lose its powerful effect in modifying the woman’s behavior and attitude for the better. A good understanding of the power of ritual will help him to avoid the disciplinary process degenerating into a habitual activity. The purpose of ritual in the Domestic Discipline lifestyle is to leave a firm imprint on the woman’s heart, so that her discipline touches her both physically and emotionally. Discipline must move her emotions and feelings so that she learns her lesson properly. Ritual contributes an emotional impact to the woman’s punishment that helps her to learn her lesson even better. The ritual aspect of Domestic Discipline, when properly understood, can be used to add significance, meaning and effect to the punishment process. However, as previously mentioned, ritual does not necessarily mean lighting candles and burning incense. An effective use of ritual can be much simpler and more effective than a contrived and artificial usage.
In this article, we will examine the ritual aspect of punishment in Domestic Discipline. By gaining a better understanding of ritual, we can see where it is useful in enhancing the Domestic Discipline process, so that the disciplinary procedure becomes more effective and more beneficial for the disciplined woman.
Ritual has a number of different benefits and effects on a process. The first function of ritual is to express some fundamental truth or meaning. There are several truths that the ritual of punishment has in the Domestic Discipline lifestyle. The first is that Domestic Discipline is necessary. The necessity of Domestic Discipline reflects the fact that the woman needs to be disciplined for her misbehavior. That, if she wants to grow as a person and become more loving herself, she needs to be disciplined for negative behavior and attitudes. The ritual of the disciplinary process reinforces and declares the necessary nature of Domestic Discipline. It expresses the truth that the woman needs to be disciplined for her own good. It is necessary that her HOH teach her a firm lesson by punishing her for her misbehavior. It is necessary that she be spanked to tears and then continue to be spanked while she is crying. It is necessary because it will help her to learn, grow and improve as a woman.
Another truth of Domestic Discipline that the ritual of discipline expresses is that the discipline is just. The ritual nature of a woman’s punishment confirms that her HOH is disciplining her with just and due cause. He is not disciplining her capriciously or randomly. It is done with purpose, intent and good reason. If she is receiving a punishment spanking, the Domestic Discipline ritual expresses her HOH’s conviction that she must be disciplined for her misbehavior, and that he believes it to be a just decision. If she is receiving a Maintenance Discipline, the just nature of spanking her even when she has committed no obvious offense comes from the knowledge that Maintenance Discipline benefits her in many different ways. Therefore, even though she is not being punished for a specific example of feminine misbehavior, she is still receiving a discipline that is administered in line with the general principles and recommendations of Domestic Discipline, which are set up for the woman’s own benefit. Maintenance Discipline is a just and fair discipline. When she receives a Preemptive Discipline, which is given in advance of a situation in which, historically, the woman has been shown to have misbehaved, the ritual of her punishment expresses the just nature of this process too. The discipline is just and correct because the woman’s history of misbehavior indicates that she is reasonably likely to misbehave again in the same situation. Ritual helps to express and reinforce this sense of justice in her discipline.
The ritual of Domestic Discipline expresses that the woman’s punishment is beneficial for her. It is done, not for the HOH’s benefit, or for the benefit of anyone else. It is carried out exclusively and expressly for the woman’s benefit. It is she who directly benefits from being disciplined. Her HOH does benefit too, but in an indirect way. He benefits because his wife becomes more loving, happy and peaceful, and because his home becomes more harmonious. But the primary recipient of the benefit is the woman who is spanked for her own good.
One of the most important truths that the ritual of Domestic Discipline can and should affirm and confirm is that punishment is inevitable for misbehavior. A woman’s misbehavior will result automatically and inevitably in a punishment spanking. The inevitability of her spanking is something that helps her to learn her lesson and increases the deterrent effect of the punishment. If discipline was not inevitable, she would be encouraged, in effect, to misbehave. It is vital that a woman’s punishment be presented to her as the inevitable and unavoidable result of her misbehavior. This helps her to learn respect, obedience and honesty. It also reduces the likelihood of her repeating the same offense again.
The inevitability of the woman’s punishment should also generally extend to the disciplinary process. By adhering to a process and a ritual of disciplining the woman that regularly brings her to tears, her HOH is reinforcing the idea that not only will misbehavior always result in punishment, but that punishment will always result in tears. Tears are a vital part of the Domestic Discipline process.
The ritual of the disciplinary process also expresses the fundamental truth that feminine submission is both healthy and positive for a woman. Submission is the key to a woman’s femininity and to her experience of her own feminine self. The ritual of discipline celebrates and affirms the role of submission in helping the woman achieve a more natural and instinctive womanhood – one that fulfills her in her own femininity. This truth is one of the first truths experienced by a woman who begins to receive Domestic Discipline. In spite of the pain and humiliation of being spanked to tears for her misbehavior, she feels so much more feminine. She discovers that feeling feminine is a validation of her true self. She discovers her femininity is innate, natural and pleasurable. She learns that femininity is one of the greatest rewards of the Domestic Discipline lifestyle.
Ritual also expresses the belief that the HOH’s leadership is necessary, valid and beneficial. This belief is central to the Domestic Discipline lifestyle. Without a belief in the HOH’s ability to lead, to guide, to protect and to correct, the whole lifestyle becomes meaningless. The woman’s trust, faith and love in her HOH and his leadership abilities are foundation beliefs for this lifestyle. Therefore, it is important that the ritual of the disciplinary process expresses and confirms the idea that the leadership of the HOH is essential.
Ritual can be used to express the truth that discipline reconnects the misbehaving woman to her HOH. When she misbehaves, her negative attitudes or actions create a gulf between herself and her HOH. This is a gap of understanding and of love. Domestic Discipline helps to close this gap by reconnecting her with her HOH. The reconnection takes place on different levels – physical, emotional and spiritual. The physical experience of being spanked on her bottom helps the woman reconnect with her HOH. The emotional experience of being spanked to tears helps to cleanse the woman of any negative emotions that may have caused her misbehavior in the first place. The loving forgiveness that accompanies the end of a successful punishment spanking reconnects the woman and her HOH on a spiritual level.
Ritual may express the way in which discipline is liberating for the punished woman. It frees her from her misbehavior by punishing her for her offense. The punishment she receives atones for her guilt and enables her to start with a clean slate. This liberation is an important aspect of Domestic Discipline. Punishment liberates the misbehaving woman from her guilt and frees her to become her best self. Domestic Discipline is a truly liberating experience for a woman.
Ritual may be used to evoke strong spiritual responses from the participants. The loving reconnection that Domestic Discipline promotes leads to a spiritual reunion between the man and his woman. The spiritual reconnection is something that can be celebrated and emphasized by ritual.
Ritual can also be used to evoke strong emotional responses from the participants. The primary beneficiary of the emotional impact of ritual is the woman who is being disciplined. The more effectively ritual is used, the more intense her experience of discipline will be and the more benefit she will receive from being punished. Being brought to tears and being spanked while she sobs will always have a significant impact on the woman’s emotions. This is one of the sources of the beneficial effects of Domestic Discipline.
Ritual can play an important role in humbling the woman who is being disciplined. Since various kinds of pride and arrogance are often responsible for her misbehavior in the first place, humbling helps to correct her proud and arrogant attitudes. Some couples go one step further and utilize ritual to facilitate the woman’s humiliation. Humiliation is a deeper version of humbling. Like humbling, however, humiliation is designed to overcome the woman’s arrogance and pride, so that she can be taught her lesson properly and more effectively. Humiliation is a very loaded and negative term for some couples. They are strongly against any talk of humiliation because they do not practice humiliation in their relationship at all. But they should remember that spanking an adult woman on her bare bottom until she cries would be regarded by most people as being extremely humiliating by definition. So claiming not to practice humiliation is not always convincing. Humiliation for most people is an integral part of Domestic Discipline, whether it is called humiliation or humbling. Humiliating the punished woman helps to break through the wrongheaded attitudes that got her into trouble in the first place. It helps to counteract any stubbornness or obstinacy that is standing in the way of her personal growth. Humiliation is the first step in rehabilitation. Humiliation is the first step in restoring her to her true loving, feminine self.
Ritual can be used to induce a feeling of shame in the woman who is being punished. She can and should be made to feel ashamed of her misbehavior. Inducing this feeling of shame will help to improve the quality of her punishment and increase the chances of her being brought to tears.
Vulnerability is another emotion that can be evoked by the careful use of ritual in Domestic Discipline. The woman’s vulnerability will increase her sense of submission to her HOH and to the disciplinary process. Encouraging or stimulating her feelings of vulnerability is a very useful aspect of ritual. Vulnerability will sensitize her to the pain of the spanking she is about to receive. Making her more sensitive to her spanking will improve its effectiveness and help to bring her to tears.
Ritual can be used to make a woman feel more feminine. Making a woman feel more vulnerable will help her to feel more feminine. Increasing her sense of submission will also assist greatly in arousing strong feelings of femininity in the woman who is about to be punished.
Ritual plays an important role in evoking a sense of respect for the disciplinary process. It is vital that the woman learns to take the disciplinary process seriously. Some women, to hide their nervousness, will even go so far as to make little jokes prior to their punishment, in order to defuse the tension. Such behavior is not desirable because it undermines the seriousness of the woman’s punishment and destroys the sense of respect that she should have for the disciplinary process. The disciplinary process is set up for her benefit, primarily, so she should respect it. Ritual can increase and improve her sense of respect for the process of corporal punishment that will be so beneficial for her.
The ritual of the disciplinary process can also evoke the woman’s respect for her HOH. If she has previously ignored or made light of his authority, the ritual aspect of Domestic Discipline can help to restore her respect for her HOH. Since he is the one who is responsible for disciplining her, guiding her and forgiving her, it is only appropriate that she should respect him for his loving efforts.
Ritual can improve the woman’s obedience to her HOH. If her punishments are too freeform and variable, and if her role is too uncertain, the woman is less likely to be obedient to her HOH during her spanking. By establishing a set format for punishment, ritual assists in making the woman more obedient to her HOH and more compliant during her discipline. Disobedience can lead to negative consequences such as wasting time unnecessarily, unintentional injury. Most importantly, disobedience can lead to the woman receiving a Disobedience Discipline to punish her for her disobedience during the disciplinary process. By paying attention to the ritual of discipline so that the woman’s obedience is enhanced, the likelihood of her misbehaving during discipline will be reduced, thereby also reducing the chances of her receiving a Disobedience Discipline.
Ritual can give a sense of inevitability to the punishment. This sense of inevitability is very important in teaching the woman that there will always be a direct consequence for her misbehavior. Whether or not the couple uses a written list of rules, the feeling of inevitability of punishment for feminine misbehavior is definitely worth encouraging. When the woman feels that her misbehavior will ALWAYS result in a punishment spanking, she will be much less likely to misbehave. When she is not sure, she will always be tempted to test her HOH to see whether she can get away with her misbehavior. Creating a sense of inevitability about her punishment will discourage her from testing her HOH and his resolve to punish her for misbehavior.
The sense of inevitability created by ritual has a number of benefits. It teaches the woman that she is being punished for her misbehavior, not for who she is. That is an distinction that has important implications for the woman’s self-esteem and self-respect. A sense of inevitability also reminds the woman that her HOH is punishing her because he has to, not because he wants to. It teaches her that the punishment is for her own good, which will help her to submit more readily to her spanking, even though she does not like it. And as was already mentioned in the preceding paragraph, inevitability teaches her that feminine misbehavior inevitably leads to a punishment spanking.
Ritual can also evoke some positive emotional responses from the woman who is about to be punished. In particular, it can evoke senses of comfort and reassurance. The ritual of discipline can reassure the woman that her punishment will proceed as usual, that her HOH will punish her in the normal way. It can reassure her that her HOH, although he is going to punish her with sufficient severity to bring her to tears, will nonetheless protect his woman from lasting injury. He wants to modify her behavior, not seriously injure her. Ritual can reassure the woman that her punishment will be conducted in a loving way, because love is the original and only reason for implementing Domestic Discipline.
Ritual will also reassure the woman that her HOH will protect her from herself. Many women are disciplined for the offense of disrespect and this disrespect is often directed against the woman herself. By punishing her, the HOH is protecting her from her own negative tendencies. Ritual can be used to reinforce and express this truth. Finally, ritual can create a sense of order in what is often a chaotic situation. A punishing spanking can easily get out of hand if the woman becomes disobedient and refuses to submit to her discipline, or if she begins to yell and scream as she is spanked. The noise of the spanking itself adds to the generally chaotic feel of the whole process. By adding the calmness, the regularity and the predictability of ritual, the disciplinary process can be made to feel less chaotic. This is a good thing, because a feeling of chaos makes the woman feel as if she is being subjected to random violence, rather than to an inevitable and just spanking that she fully deserves for her misbehavior. Reducing the chaos of spanking and emphasizing the calmness and rationality of the process will help the woman to benefit more from her punishment. One of the reasons that the male HOH is uniquely qualified to administer discipline to his woman is because he is generally less emotional than his woman. He can conduct a discipline in an atmosphere of calm, reason and self-discipline, so that his woman can benefit from being punished for her own good.
Ritual can help the HOH too. It can evoke strong feelings of leadership and guidance in him. It can enhance his sense of authority and his righteous power to correct his woman when she is guilty of misbehavior. It can evoke strong feelings of protectiveness in him. All of these positive emotions are beneficial for the HOH because they help him to do what is best for his woman. Doing what is best for her means making sure that he punishes her sufficiently. It also means making sure that he does not injure her because of any overzealousness on his part. Being a leader, a guide, an authoritative male and a protector means making sure that he does not err on the side of excessive leniency, nor on the side of excessive force. Fortunately, the female bottom is designed to take a great deal of punishment. Women are more likely to have a problem with excessive leniency than its opposite. The ritual of Domestic Discipline will aid the HOH to administer the best, most effective discipline every time, so that his woman receives maximum benefit from her spanking.
Ritual can be used to confirm shared goals and beliefs. Although the man and the woman have diametrically opposite roles in the disciplinary process, their main goals and beliefs should be essentially identical. The man administers the discipline and the woman submits to her punishment. He is active and she is passive, according to their natural masculine and feminine roles. But their actions of punishment and submission are both based on the same knowledge that Domestic Discipline is beneficial for the woman and for their relationship. That belief may be the last thing on the woman’s mind as she prepares herself for the pain and humiliation of her spanking. She may only be thinking of how much she fears getting a painful spanking, not how much she believes in the disciplinary process as a means of behavior modification, stress release and loving reconnection. This is where ritual can help to reassert the shared goals of Domestic Discipline, even as the woman faces her spanking with trepidation. Ritual can remind her that she is there because she wanted to be there. It can remind her that both she and her HOH believe and know that Domestic Discipline is the best thing for her when she misbehaves. It can remind her that Domestic Discipline is always administered for her own good.
Ritual can be used to express the idea that Domestic Discipline is a form of unified action to strengthen the connection between the HOH and the disciplined woman. Although the HOH and his woman have different and contrasting roles during discipline, they are still a part of a unified action whose purpose is ultimately to unite the participants. Their roles are different yet complementary. Without the HOH’s leadership, the woman would have no one to submit to, and without her submission, her HOH would have no one to lead. The unified action of Domestic Discipline unites the participants and reconnects the punished woman to her HOH.
Ritual can also emphasize the nature of Domestic Discipline as a shared experience. Although the experience of the HOH and his woman are vastly different, they share the disciplinary process together. The woman is reminded that she is not alone during her punishment, even though she may feel that the pain and humiliation of her spanking are isolating her temporarily. The shared experience of Domestic Discipline reminds the woman that misbehavior harms her marriage and teaches her not to be selfish. It also teaches her that she is a part of the couple and a part of her family unit. Often the woman is punished for misbehavior caused by an erroneous belief that she is completely separate from all those around her and that she has no responsibilities to anyone else except herself. Punishment can be used to reunite her with the people around her who love her. Punishment corrects her erroneous belief that she is separate and unconnected from those around her.
When considering ritual elements of Domestic Discipline, the most important things to remember are safety and simplicity. No ritual should be used that makes the process of spanking the woman dangerous in any way. Nor should ritual be added when it complicates the disciplinary process unnecessarily, making it difficult to perform properly. Spanking the misbehaving woman’s bottom is a simple, safe and time-honored technique for resolving negative feminine behavior and attitudes. There is no need to complicate it.
For this reason, it was mentioned that candles and incense are not appropriate ritual additions for most people, because they introduce both flame and smoke into a complex physical situation. The last thing anyone needs during a Domestic Discipline is to choke on smoke or to set the house on fire. The HOH will have his hands full just holding his woman in position while he administers her punishment spanking. He does not need other things to distract him from his job.
If the ritual of Domestic Discipline becomes so complicated that you need to write it down just so that you can remember it, you have obviously created an overly complex ritual. In Domestic Discipline, ritual should evolve organically. It may take some time to work out the best ritual of punishment so that the woman can be disciplined properly and thoroughly, so that she is reliably brought to tears and taught her lesson. You are unlikely to develop the best ritual at the first discipline, although anything is possible, of course.
The ritual of discipline is simply the standard sequence of orders and events that the HOH uses whenever he disciplines his woman for misbehavior. It is not an elaborate, contrived pattern of behavior that takes hours to complete and confuses the participants. But most couples have their own pattern of events that is unique to them. Most HOH’s develop a standard sequence of events they use when they discipline their women. Over time, the careful HOH should look at refining and improving the way that he disciplines his woman so that each punishment becomes more effective and more beneficial for the woman. By refining the ritual, he can increase the likelihood of bringing her to tears, which in turn will increase the effectiveness of the punishment. He can use the ritual to wordlessly communicate the most important aspects of Domestic Discipline. The ritual can be used to set the scene to make the woman’s punishment as effective and as meaningful as possible.
The ritual can begin long before the woman is actually punished. Some couples have a written contract which outlines their Domestic Discipline agreement, the rules (if any) that the woman is expected to respect and the punishments for infringing each rule. The exact amount of each punishment might be prescribed, so that she always knows the precise consequences for any female misbehavior. The precision of the punishment specifications helps to establish the ritual in each punishment spanking. For a minor offense, the woman might receive only a small number of swats or only a few minutes of spanking, while for a major offense she might receive a higher number of swats or a longer spanking.
It is generally recommended in Domestic Discipline that a less rigid system be used, especially if the HOH is having some difficulty bringing his woman to tears when he disciplines her. A woman is not a machine and does not necessarily respond to a fixed number of swats for a specific offense. It is far better to take into account her current mental, physical and emotional states when disciplining her. Sometimes she will need a lot more punishment to bring her to tears, while at other times she may begin crying even before her spanking begins.
Nonetheless, there are couples who do successfully use fixed penalties for given offenses. For them, the added ritual that the fixed penalty brings to the woman’s discipline is a helpful part of the disciplinary process.
One ritual that some HOH’s use to enhance the disciplinary process is to inform their woman that she will be disciplined at some point in the future. Often the time that is fixed for the woman’s discipline is due to various restrictions on the HOH’s time or the couple’s time. It may be that the HOH has a very busy schedule. Or it may be that the couple’s children are usually at home and the HOH needs to find a time when they are alone together in order to administer the discipline that his woman needs. These are examples of simple, practical restrictions that oblige the HOH to discipline his woman later than he would prefer. And in particular, later than SHE would prefer.
Because it must be noted that most women would prefer to be disciplined sooner rather than later. They would prefer to get it over and done with, so that they can get on with their lives and forget the unpleasantness of their punishment as soon as possible. The woman naturally prefers to be spanked as quickly as possible so that she can carry on as if it never happened. For her, that would be almost ideal – punishment that does not really register in her mind or heart, because her ego will not allow her to submit fully to her HOH and will not allow her to experience the personal growth that she truly needs.
The first part of any ritual involving Domestic Discipline is to inform the woman that she is going to be punished. Her HOH may inform her in an angry, scolding tone. He may inform her in a calm but firm tone. Or he may inform her in a disappointed but reluctantly determined tone. Whichever method he uses, he should be aware of its impact on his woman, because this first stage in disciplining her is important in itself. The way in which he informs her of her impending discipline helps to set the tone for her punishment and has a specific psychological effect on her – an effect which hopefully contributes to the efficacy of the disciplinary process.
It is a fact that the longer a woman’s punishment is delayed, the more the thought of her spanking weighs upon her. If a woman’s punishment is carried out immediately, she has no time to dwell on her impending spanking. Before she has had time to think about it, the discipline has been administered, she has been brought to tears and her punishment is complete. Woman spanked; lesson learned; love restored.
But when the spanking must be postponed for some reason, the woman has a great deal more time to consider her punishment. She has time to reflect on the pain and the shame of her impending discipline. She has time to dwell on the fact that she is going to experience the consequences of her misbehavior. Presumably she imagined that she was somehow going to escape the consequences of her misbehavior. She somehow thought that her HOH would not detect and/or would not punish her feminine misbehavior. This was obviously a big mistake on her part, because she now has to face up to the prospect of being spanked to tears.
The further in advance a woman is informed of her spanking, the more time she will have to contemplate the punishment she is going to receive. The more time she has to think, the greater the effect of the discipline. Often she will find that the knowledge that she is going to be punished is almost as bad as the punishment itself. She has time to think, fear and worry about the experience of being spanked to tears. She has time to contemplate the shame of being told to remove all her clothes and being put over her HOH’s knee so that he can corporally punish her until she is sobbing and contrite. She has time to consider means, almost all of which are futile, of escaping her spanking that she dreads so much. She has time to come to the natural conclusion that the only thing worse than being spanked would be to somehow bargain or trick her way out of her punishment. As much as she dislikes the idea of being spanked, she knows that avoiding it by convincing or deceiving her HOH to spare her punishment would only leave her feeling worse than if she were spanked, because she would be left with an even greater sense of guilt.
Another important technique that contributes to the effectiveness of a woman’s spanking is to implicate her in her own discipline. This means involving her in the disciplinary process so that she is more than just a passive participant. Involving or implicating a woman in her own punishment helps to teach her the absolute necessity of being disciplined for her misbehavior. It helps to teach her that she was definitely wrong to have misbehaved in the way that she did. It helps to make her understand that she is being disciplined for her own good and that anything she can do to assist in the disciplinary process will be of direct benefit to her as a woman.
It is quite humbling for a woman to be involved in her own discipline. It is already humbling enough to be disciplined in the first place, but when she is also told to perform certain actions that will implicate her in her own punishment, her sense of being humbled and shamed will be increased, thereby increasing the effectiveness of her punishment.
One technique that the HOH can use to implicate his woman in her own punishment is to make her admit that she needs to be punished for her own good. This is something that can occur at the scolding stage of her discipline. As well as scolding her for her misbehavior, her HOH can question her about her motives for misbehaving. He should ask her what she thinks the impact of her misbehavior is. He should also ask her if she understands that she needs to be disciplined for her own good. By obliging her to admit that the only sensible, honest and loving response to her misbehavior is to discipline her, she has already implicated herself in her own punishment. This will make her easier to discipline by rendering her more obedient and submissive, qualities which will benefit her not only during her punishment but also afterwards in her daily life.
This technique can be extended by making the woman ask for her punishment. Making her ask to be punished will help to implicate her more deeply in her own punishment. It will deepen her submission by creating a psychological acceptance of her punishment before it has even begun. This will benefit the woman in her femininity and in her obedience to her HOH. It will also make her more obedient during her punishment, which is an important thing because it will facilitate her punishment. It will help her to learn the lesson she needs to be taught as a woman.
Not only should the woman be encouraged to ask to be punished, but she should also be taught to ask to be brought to tears during her punishment. Asking to be brought to tears is a valuable act of submission in a woman who needs to be disciplined. It helps her to recognize that not only does she need to be punished for her misbehavior, but she also needs to be brought to tears so that she can experience an appropriate level of submission during her punishment. Tears are extremely beneficial for a woman being disciplined because they benefit her on so many different and positive levels. These benefits are outlined in more detail in the Tears article.
Anyone who has also read the Tearful Discipline article, which discusses the need to spank the woman while she cries and sobs, in order to create an even deeper submission, catharsis and positive learning experience, will understand that it is necessary to ensure that the woman receives a Tearful Discipline when she is punished for misbehavior. In the interests of further implicating the woman in her own discipline, she should be encouraged to ask her HOH to administer a Tearful Discipline to her. That is to say, she should ask him to spank her to tears so that she is crying freely, and then to continue spanking her while she sobs. This is the essence of a Tearful Discipline and it is extremely beneficial for a woman who is being disciplined by her HOH. When a woman asks her HOH for a Tearful Discipline, she is admitting fully and openly her need to be disciplined for her own good. She admits her need to be punished by her HOH so that she can become a better woman, wife and person.
Another important technique which can help to implicate a woman in her own punishment is to simply make her apologize before she is spanked. Making her apologize to her HOH for her misbehavior or negative attitude is a very simple but very effective technique which helps to humble the woman prior to her punishment. It puts her into an appropriately submissive frame of mind which is an excellent preparation for her corporal punishment. A simple and sincere apology from the woman will help to increase her obedience, submission and humility during her spanking. This important ritual should not be neglected by her HOH.
If the woman is not able to apologize in a sincere way prior to her spanking, it is not so important. Her HOH can teach her to be more contrite by bringing her to tears during her spanking. Later, when she has been crying and sobbing for some time, she will find it much easier to say she is sorry for her misbehavior and actually mean it. As always, if her HOH is not satisfied with the sincerity of her second apology, he can simply put her back over his knee and keep spanking her until he is satisfied that she is finally crying genuine tears of contrition.
When the woman has apologized for her misbehavior, her HOH should accept her apology (even if he doubts its sincerity). He should verbally accept her apology and then inform her that she will be punished for her misbehavior. Her apology does not absolve her from punishment for her misbehavior. Her apology is simply a sign of feminine submission and respect, making it clear to her HOH that she has understood her misbehavior and her need to be punished. Her apology will not save her from punishment. It is simply a respectful feminine prelude to the punishment she knows she fully deserves. While it is important for the woman to apologize for her misbehavior, it is even more important for her to be spanked to tears of contrition. She should always be thoroughly spanked after saying she is sorry, because that is how she will learn her lesson best.
One aspect of ritual that is very effective is to oblige the woman to find and bring back the implement or implements with which she will be punished. This only applies to couples who use an implement other than the HOH’s hand to discipline the woman, of course. When a couple uses an implement such as the paddle, the belt, the strap, the hairbrush, the wooden spoon or the Loopy Johnny, it is a useful part of the ritual for the HOH to order his woman to retrieve the punishment implement from its storage place. Again, this is a very effective way of implicating the woman in her own punishment. By finding and bringing the punishment implement, she is being involved in facilitating her own discipline, which is highly beneficial for the woman. Getting the implement helps to humble the woman and put her into a state of greater submission, which in turn enables her to be punished more effectively.
The traditional rural method involved making the woman go and cut the switch with which she was going to be punished. This was very beneficial for the woman because it implicated her quite deeply in her punishment. Selecting and then cutting the right switch obliged her to become intimately involved with the implement of her discipline. However, in Domestic Discipline it is generally recommended that a switch not be used on a regular basis to discipline a woman, because it can cause problems with permanently marking the woman’s bottom if used too often. It is safer and better to use the hand, paddle or belt in the Domestic Discipline lifestyle.
Some couples use more than a single implement for the woman’s discipline. The HOH may select from a range of different implements when disciplining his woman. He may choose an implement based on the type of discipline he is about to administer – punishment, maintenance, preemptive, disobedience, etc. Or he may select an implement for different degrees of severity. A mild punishment spanking may be administered with his hand, while a more severe offense might be punished with the paddle or belt. Or the HOH may begin each discipline with his hand before changing to a more severe implement when his woman’s bottom has been sufficiently warmed up.
In these cases where more than one implement is used for the woman’s punishment, it is a beneficial aspect of ritual to make the woman go and retrieve all the implements which might be used to discipline her. Sometimes an HOH might order his woman to go and find a particular implement because he has decided to use only that implement for her punishment. Or he may tell her to fetch all of the implements because either he has not made up his mind yet or because he wishes to keep his woman guessing as to the implement that will be used to punish her.
It is an important part of the ritual that the woman should bring the implements to the place of punishment in a respectful manner. She should not be permitted to grab them quickly and throw them petulantly on the bed/chair/table/etc. Such behavior is evidence of disrespect and disobedience. It should be punished with a Disobedience Discipline so that she learns to respect her HOH, to respect the implements with which she is going to be punished and to respect the disciplinary process. Maintaining a proper ritual will help the woman to respect the disciplinary process, which only exists for her own good. By disrespecting the disciplinary process, she is ultimately disrespecting herself. She needs to be taught to respect the ritual of discipline because this ritual exists for her own benefit as a woman. If her HOH did not care about her, he would not care enough to discipline her for her misbehavior. He would not take the time and trouble to punish her for her own good.
So the woman should lay the implements gently, carefully and respectfully on the bed, table, couch, etc prior to her punishment. She should always remember that the respect she shows for the implements of discipline is a reflection of the respect she has for her HOH and for the disciplinary process.
Although the majority of HOH’s will choose the implement which will be used to punish the misbehaving woman, a small percentage will allow the woman to choose the implement herself. Most women, when given this choice, will select the least painful implement. This may mean that she receives a less painful punishment. If the HOH is conscientious about discipline, however, he will ensure that his woman is disciplined thoroughly regardless of which implement she chooses. He will ensure that she is brought to tears and spanked while she sobs, so that she gets the full benefit of discipline and learns her lesson properly. Other HOH’s may impose an additional punishment on the woman if she selects an implement that is too mild in its effect. This serves as an incentive to the woman to choose the right implement for the job of disciplining her properly. It also helps to further implicate the woman in her own punishment, thereby improving her submission and obedience.
In Domestic Discipline, the woman’s bottom should always be bared for spanking. This is for safety reasons, because the HOH should always be able to see the effect that his swats are having on his woman’s bottom, so that he does not accidentally injure her. It is also highly recommended in Domestic Discipline that the woman be stripped completely naked for her punishment, because this creates greater humility, submission and obedience. Nudity, which is discussed at length in the Nudity and Nudity 2 articles, is a beneficial aspect of the disciplinary process and contributes substantially to the overall benefit gained by the woman from her punishment.
The ritual of nudity varies from household to household. Some HOH’s will order their woman to go to the bedroom and remove her clothing alone, before awaiting her spanking. Other HOH’s will have their woman take off her clothes in their presence, although this is shunned by some HOH’s who do not want to overly sexualize the disciplinary process. They do not want their woman to undress in front of them in case they become sexually aroused and lose their focus on disciplining her properly. And some other HOH’s will personally remove their woman’s clothing prior to disciplining her. It varies a great deal.
None of these ways is superior to any other. It is up to the HOH to determine the best way to discipline his woman. He can experiment with different approaches to the ritual of discipline in order to optimize the disciplinary effect of the woman’s spanking. Some HOH’s find that making their woman remove her own clothes while she waits to be punished is the most effective way of beginning her discipline. Others feel that it is more humbling for the woman to have to remove her clothing in their presence. Far from being sexual, it is often quite humbling for the woman to have to take off her clothes in a situation whose intent is solely disciplinary. She knows that she is not removing her clothes to take a shower or to make love. Instead, she is taking off her clothes so that she can be punished for her misbehavior. This changes the overall tone quite dramatically and humbles her immediately.
And some HOH’s prefer to remove their woman’s clothing themselves. The reasoning behind this procedure is that the woman’s control over her appearance, modesty and privacy is being temporarily taken away. Because she has misbehaved, she has temporarily lost the right to protect her modesty with clothing. Her HOH has decided to exercise his authority over her and remove her right to clothing for the duration of her punishment. To reinforce this important principle, he removes her clothing himself, reminding his woman via this ritual that she no longer has the right to clothing. Her clothing privileges will remain rescinded until her HOH has decided that her punishment has been completed to his satisfaction.
The most common location for disciplining a woman is the master bedroom. Usually this is because the bedroom offers more privacy than any other room in the home. This privacy facilitates a thorough and effective discipline which involves bringing the woman to tears of contrition. If the couple has children, they are less likely to be disturbed in their own bedroom than in any other room.
Often, however, the woman will be disciplined when the presence of children is not an issue. Either the couple have no children or the children are temporarily absent from the home. This frees up the HOH to discipline his woman in any room that he feels is appropriate. He may choose a room that relates to the woman’s misbehavior in some way. If her misbehavior relates to domestic issues such as unpaid bills, overspending on household items, overeating, etc, he may decide to discipline her in the kitchen, since this room bears the closest connection to her misbehavior. If she has been watching too much TV in the living room, she may be disciplined in that room because it will be good for her to be spanked to tears while watching the TV, which is the source of her misbehavior. If she is guilty of dangerous driving or unpaid driving fines, she might be disciplined in the garage, bent over her automobile. This assumes that there is sufficient privacy, both aural and visual, to punish the woman effectively in the garage.
The significance of the punishment place can be used to reinforce the ritual of Domestic Discipline, so that the woman learns her lesson on more than one level. It is not necessary to vary the punishment location as outlined in the preceding paragraph. Most couples find that the bedroom is perfectly fine for dealing with the woman’s misbehavior and for administering regular Maintenance Discipline. But the possibility of using other locations is raised so that people will realize that they have more than one choice.
Many HOH’s feel that using the same room for the woman’s punishment every time helps to establish the ritual of Domestic Discipline more effectively. They feel that changing the location would upset the routine and the ritual of discipline, which would then suffer in its effectiveness as a result. Using the same location every time can help to reinforce the ritual and put the woman into an immediately submissive and obedient mind set. This benefits her greatly because it enables her to be disciplined more effectively and thoroughly, as well as reducing the risk of feminine disobedience or disrespect.
There is a difference between sending the woman to the room where she is going to be punished and taking her there. Some HOH’s prefer to send their woman to the place of punishment alone so that she is obliged to obey her HOH immediately. She is placed immediately into an obedient and submissive frame of mind. She also has time to reflect on her misbehavior and her impending punishment, which can be beneficial for her as a woman.
Other HOH’s prefer to take their woman to the bedroom etc themselves. They will grasp her upper arm firmly and march her to the room where she is to be punished. This is a different way of asserting the HOH’s authority over his woman, because she is immediately subject to his physical authority as soon as he has decided that she needs to be disciplined for her own good. By physically controlling her, he is making it clear to her that she must obey him and that he has both the strength and the willpower to discipline her for her misbehavior.
In the early stages of a Domestic Discipline relationship, this physical approach may be necessary because the woman’s obedience and submission levels are much worse than they should be. If the woman has problems with obeying her HOH when it comes to discipline, it may be absolutely necessary for him to take her firmly and march her to the bedroom so that she can be spanked for her misbehavior. Over time, however, as the woman learns to be more obedient and submissive to her HOH, she may not need such firm manhandling. As she develops her femininity, her obedience and her submission, she may obey her HOH more promptly when informed that she is going to be disciplined. She may no longer need to be forced to submit to her punishment, because she has realized that she is being punished for her own good as a woman.
Corner Time is another important part of the Domestic Discipline process that many couples have developed their own ritual for. Often the woman will be put into the corner at a specific stage or stages of her discipline, so that she has time to reflect on her wrongdoing and the necessity for her punishment. As outlined in the Corner Time article, Corner Time is often a chance for the woman to realize her own guilt sufficiently that she is brought to tears, if she is not already crying when she is put into the corner.
The ritual of Corner Time varies enormously. Some women are made to stand in the corner while others are made to kneel. Some women are told to clasp their hands behind their head while others are permitted to cross them in front of their bodies. Few women are permitted to rub their burning bottoms during Corner Time, but there are always exceptions. The way in which a woman is sent to the corner reflects the individual ritual developed by each HOH. The way in which she serves her Corner Time also reflects this. Some women are observed for the entire duration of their Corner Time by their HOH. Others are left alone to do their Corner Time. And others are left alone but are periodically checked by their HOH to ensure they are compliant with HOH’s instructions regarding this Non-Spanking Discipline.
Some women are actually spanked while they are in the corner. Some are scolded during Corner Time. Both of these techniques can be used to stimulate the woman’s tears – either to make her start crying or to restart her sobbing if she has stopped for some reason. Spanking or scolding the woman during Corner Time may be a variation from the normal ritual of discipline or it may be a normal procedure. As long as it is effective in disciplining the woman and bringing her to tears, it does not matter which it is.
Scolding is an important part of the Domestic Discipline ritual. Some HOH’s scold very little, while others scold for the entire duration of the woman’s punishment. Scolding is generally a good thing because it communicates clearly to the woman. It makes her understand in no uncertain terms why she is being punished and what she should learn from her punishment. Some HOH’s always scold their woman in the same way. This may be because the HOH prefers to use the same scolding technique every time, or it may be because the woman’s misbehavior is always of the same nature. Other HOH’s will scold their woman differently each time, so that she remains attentive to her HOH’s words and does not zone out. Scolding her differently helps to maintain the woman’s attention to her HOH.
Some HOH’s have certain preparatory gestures they use prior to disciplining their woman. They will stretch their arms – especially their spanking arm – or their neck or their back, so that they do not injure themselves while administering their woman’s punishment. They may rub their hands together to warm their palm, in preparation for delivering a good, sound hand spanking. They may apply oil to a leather strap so that it remains supple and pliable for the duration of the woman’s punishment. All these are simple acts and gestures that contribute greatly to the ritual of discipline. They occupy small, quiet moments before the spanking begins and the woman is resoundingly brought to tears of contrition. They create small, familiar sounds and gestures that the woman notices, helping to put her into a more humbled, submissive and obedient state prior to her punishment. They communicate to the woman her HOH’s firm intent to discipline her for her own good, because she sees him going about the process of discipline as if he really means it. Which he does, of course. He is going about the process of preparing to discipline her because he knows it is for her own good. That knowledge provides him with the determination and zeal to discipline her thoroughly.
Another aspect of ritual is when an HOH informs his woman of why she is going to be punished. Not all HOH’s communicate this information to the woman immediately prior to her spanking, because they feel it has already been communicated in previous discussion. For those that do, however, this information makes it clear to the woman that she is being punished for her misbehavior (unless it is a Maintenance Discipline). It communicates a strong sense of inevitability about the punishment. The woman is left in no doubt that her misbehavior is the direct cause of her spanking.
Following on from the act of informing the woman about why she is to be disciplined, many HOH’s will also explain to the woman how she is going to be punished. They may tell her that she will have her bottom warmed up by a certain amount of hand spanking, followed by a more robust punishment using the belt or paddle. This informational statement will often strike fear into the woman’s heart, because the true and unpleasant details of her punishment are being revealed to her immediately before this punishment is inflicted. The ritual aspect of this kind of information will help to render the woman more submissive and obedient to her HOH and to her discipline. The reality of her situation sinks in and she realizes that her HOH was not joking when he told her she would be physically disciplined for her misbehavior.
The HOH may go further and explain to his woman that she will be spanked to tears during her discipline. This spanking to tears will be done for her own good so that she learns properly from her discipline and does not repeat her mistake. The HOH may even explain to her that she will not only be spanked to tears, but that she will also be spanked while she is crying. This is known as a Tearful Discipline and is the most effective way to discipline a woman. When she is spanked while sobbing, she gains the maximum benefit from her punishment. Outlining her impending Tearful Discipline can help to bring the woman to tears more effectively than just going ahead and spanking her without any preliminary declarations of intent and process. These preliminary declarations contribute markedly to the ritual aspect of Domestic Discipline and benefit the woman greatly.
Some HOH’s who administer a set number of swats during discipline will inform their woman that she is to receive a precise number of smacks, swats or strokes of the hand, paddle or belt. When this amount is higher than usual, it helps to put the woman into a humbled and submissive state, because she knows that she has a lengthy and painful discipline ahead of her. She is humbled by her HOH’s firm and righteous intent to discipline her for her own good.
There are some HOH’s who make their woman thank them after each swat and/or count each swat aloud. This is not necessarily the most common technique because it can severely slow down the woman’s discipline. Under some circumstances, it can allow the woman to control the rate of her spanking by simply delaying her thanks or counting for each swat. This is obviously not a positive outcome and the HOH should watch carefully to ensure that his woman does not use delaying tactics when required to count or thank for each swat. Any deliberate slowing down by the woman should be treated with a subsequent Disobedience Discipline to ensure that she develops greater respect for the disciplinary process and for her HOH.
The use of the word “Sir” is a part of the Domestic Discipline that some HOH’s demand from their women. Some women address their HOH as “Sir” during the disciplinary process without even having been asked or told to do so by their HOH – it just comes out naturally. Addressing her HOH as “Sir” helps the woman to submit to him and obey him during her punishment. It puts her into the right frame of mind to accept his loving guidance and correction for her own good. It adds meaning and significance to the entire ritual of discipline, thus improving the effectiveness of the woman’s punishment.
Asking the woman if she has had enough spanking is another useful technique in the ritual of Domestic Discipline. Naturally, the HOH should always know the answer to this question himself, because he needs to weigh his woman’s answer against what he knows to be the truth of the situation. He will know whether she has been properly brought to tears and been given a Tearful Discipline for sufficiently long. If the woman facetiously answers that she has had enough spanking, even when she knows that her discipline has hardly even begun, she should receive a Disobedience Discipline to encourage a more honest appraisal of her own needs. This aspect of ritual will help the woman to develop honesty and self-awareness. Over time, she will learn to understand her own needs for discipline so that she can receive the necessary amount of punishment for her misbehavior.
Thanking her HOH for disciplining her is a very important part of the Domestic Discipline ritual. The Thanking article discusses this process in more detail. As far as ritual is concerned, however, thanking is an aspect that should never be missed. If the woman does not thank her HOH for disciplining her, she has misunderstood the entire disciplinary process, which is conducted for her own good. She should be aware that her HOH has disciplined her as an act of love. He has disciplined her out of his concern for her wellbeing and for her development as a person. He wants her to be happy, to be loving, respectful, honest, obedient and submissive. These qualities will help her to develop as a wife, as a woman, as a mother and as a human being. The ritual of thanking her HOH is one that every woman should respect and observe after she has been disciplined for her own good. Her HOH should always enforce this aspect of the ritual and he should discipline his woman if she forgets or ignores it.
Some HOH’s will enforce the ritual of thanking more precisely. They will require their woman to look them straight in the eyes when thanking them, so that the HOH can detect any falseness in the woman’s thanks. If she cannot thank her HOH honestly and genuinely for disciplining her, then she needs to be put back over his knee and spanked until she has reached a place of sufficient obedience and submission. She needs to be spanked until she is really thankful for her discipline, because only then will she have received the full benefits of her spanking.
Another part of the Domestic Discipline ritual that is also very important is the ritual of forgiveness. This is a wonderfully sweet moment when the HOH takes his woman in his arms and forgives her for her misbehavior. If she has not misbehaved and she has just received a Maintenance Discipline, she does not need to be forgiven but she still needs to be lovingly reconciled with her HOH. He takes her in his arms and accepts her submission, her obedience, her respect, her honesty and her love. He holds her lovingly and protectively. This aspect of the ritual signifies that the HOH and his woman are reconciled in mutual love. It signifies that the woman has accepted her HOH’s guidance and correction. It signifies that the HOH has successfully reminded his woman of her femininity and of her feminine responsibilities. It signifies that now that he has returned her to her true self, they are reconciled as a couple. The natural balance of masculine and feminine energies has been restored.
Some couples incorporate the ritual of the Journal or Punishment Book into the disciplinary process, while others keep it separate. The journal is used by the woman to record the details of her misbehavior and subsequent punishment. This provides her with a record of her progress and helps her to understand how Domestic Discipline benefits her as a woman. It also provides a useful reference for her HOH so that he can check if the woman has been previously disciplined for the same misbehavior. Making an entry into her journal helps the woman to process her discipline and see how it fits into her overall personal development as a woman. It provides a context for and understanding of her punishment and its necessity.
How to develop the ritual
The ritual of discipline need not always be the same. The existence of different types of discipline in the Domestic Discipline lifestyle mean that different rituals can exist within the one couple’s spanking regime. There are punishment spankings, Maintenance Discipline spankings, Preemptive Discipline, Introductory Discipline, Disobedience Discipline and Multiple Discipline. The HOH may use the same ritual for each of these types of spanking, or he may vary the ritual according to the type of discipline that he is administering to his woman. By varying the ritual, he communicates different moods and emotions to his woman during her spanking. This helps her to understand the reason for each type of discipline, so that she gains maximum benefit each time. The ritual for a Maintenance Discipline should emphasize the woman’s submission and obedience to her HOH. It does not need to place any emphasis on her guilt because there is not necessarily any wrongdoing on her part. A Maintenance Discipline is administered for her own benefit, to remind her of the need to be honest, obedient, respectful, submissive and loving at all times. She is not being spanked for specific misbehavior and therefore does not need to be reminded of any guilt. Instead, she needs to be reminded that she is subject to her HOH’s authority and that a submissive, loving attitude is required from her at all times. The ritual of Maintenance Discipline should make it clear to the woman that she is being disciplined as a reminder of her submission, not because she has misbehaved. The ritual can nonetheless remind her of the inevitability of her Maintenance Discipline, because it is something that her HOH recognizes that she needs on a regular basis, because it is deeply beneficial for her as a woman. Regular Maintenance Discipline helps to build and enhance her femininity, her love and her submission. It is a ritual that should be respected because of its profound benefit for the woman. Maintenance Discipline helps her on so many different levels to feel feminine, loved, protected and cared for by her HOH.
Any ritual used should not become overly complex. If the whole spanking process takes hours to complete, the HOH will become reluctant to discipline his woman at all. He will think of the amount of time a proper punishment spanking will consume and then let it slide because it is too much trouble. The ritual should be an aspect which enhances the disciplinary process, not an aspect which dominates it totally. As mentioned previously, ritual does not mean incense and candles. It simply means taking the disciplinary process seriously because of its profound significance and benefit for the woman.
Another reason why the ritual of discipline should not become too complex is that a lengthy ritual can be too difficult for the HOH to remember exactly. Then, if he omits one element from the process, his woman may wonder what is wrong and the disciplinary effect of her spanking may be diminished unnecessarily. The ritual of Domestic Discipline should be kept simple and easy to replicate at each discipline or punishment.
The existence of ritual does not mean that the HOH is not free to vary the disciplinary process as he sees fit. He is the one in charge, not his woman nor the ritual. He has taken charge of his woman via the disciplinary process, so the disciplinary process should serve his goals, not the other way around. He can always use different techniques, different implements, different ways of scolding her, different Corner Time procedures and different amounts of punishment. He should not feel constrained to follow the same process every time, especially if he feels that it does not benefit his woman as much as a modified ritual would. It is up to him to decide what is best for his woman. He is the HOH and he is the one who needs to decide if the current ritual is beneficial for her or not. His woman’s job is simply to submit to his authority, not to criticize the ritual that he has adopted to discipline her. She may make respectful suggestions to her HOH some time (e.g. a couple of hours) after her discipline has been completed, but she should never question the ritual or the process of discipline while she is undergoing it.
Ritual is a powerful and important part of the disciplinary process in the Domestic Discipline lifestyle. It contributes substantially to the overall effectiveness of the woman’s discipline, helping her to benefit more deeply from being guided and corrected by her HOH.