After a lot of discussion and prayer, my husband and I adopted a DD lifestyle. We talked about this openly before we were married, and made the decision then. Unlike a lot of the other women I read about, this was more at his urging than mine. I am pretty sure his brother spanks his wife too so I think it was something he was more used to. My dad was very old-fashioned too and I was spanked growing up, well into my teen years so it was not something new to me.
I was always attracted to him because of his dominant personality and I realized that there were definite things in my behavior that would hurt our marriage and that I should work on.
At first, everything worked like I guess I thought it should. It did do everything “as promised,” I felt closer to him, and felt that the threat of a spanking… and the reality … really did help me focus. We also started doing some “play” spanking and I loved that. I felt loved cherished and protected.
But things have really fallen apart for us lately and the reason is me.
In a way, spanking worked too well. It’s gone from something that brings us together to something that I am really afraid of. So afraid that I will do anything I can to avoid one. Including lying to him about things so I don’t get in trouble. I have gotten two speeding tickets in the last six months and have not told him about either. I tell fibs constantly about stuff he’s asked me to do and I haven’t done.
I know that part of it is that I *think* he spanks very hard. When it’s punishment, it’s always bare bottom with a wooden paddle. He won’t use his hand because he says his hand is for love and affection, not correction. I know this is traditional and I accept that, but the paddle even though it is small, just hurts so much. (I think some of it is that when we were discussing this before we were married, and I agreed to it, I sort of compared it to what I knew from home. My dad spanked, but it was with his hand and always through clothes. It was a few whacks and more symbolic than anything I guess. But bare-bottom hurts so much more that I can’t stand it.) I am always sobbing by the time it’s over and feel very sick. Yet compared to what some other ladies say they get I don’t think it’s too much. I never have bruises, just a very sore red bottom for a few hours, which he says is not too much. He says I’m a grown woman and my butt can take a lot and that if he just gave me a few “paddy cakes” I wouldn’t learn anything. In a way I think he’s right, but I know I don’t want it.
We have talked about and prayed about it, and he says it’s because I haven’t really submitted to his judgment. That he would never really hurt me, but that we decided together before we were married that spanking would be something that was used, and now it’s my duty to submit to it. But all I know is that I have come to hate this, yet I want him to be happy and I really do feel that I did agree and promise before God to obey him. He’s agreed to consider using other discipline too, like writing lines, but when he assigned something like that to me lately, I felt so resentful, I just hated it. He grounded me recently from the computer, and I couldn’t wait to sneak on as soon as he went to work. When he got home I lied about that too.
I think really he’s right. I don’t want to submit. I know that if we didn’t have this relationship, I would NOT feel this resentful towards him. If I could just say ( like some of my friends do) “Hey I got another speeding ticket. Oh well.” and that’s the end, it would be fine.
Christian Domestic Discipline 
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Lady, this is not Christianity. There is nothing biblical about a man disciplining his wife. In fact, the Apostle Paul says that you are his flesh, and that no man hateth his own flesh (Ephesians 5:29). Children are allowed to be spanked because they are in personal development. A fully grown adult woman should have the maturity and reasoning that physical discipline is unnecessary. Can you really imagine Jesus spanking his wife? If you can, then you have a vain idea of what Jesus is all about. I encourage you to try consider that biblically, this is abuse. Jesus gave Himself for you, that is love. Not this. Please read the Bible and examine your faith.
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Says who? Have you read the bible? Are you even Christian?
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I have been reading the Bible for 22 years and have extension knowledge of it. That is how long I have been a Christian. There is no biblical basis for disciplining your wives, and after what I’ve read of both the practice and the people who practice it, I find some very unChristian-like behavior. The fact that many of the people who practice it also associate it with sexual intimacy shows that it is no simply a disciplinary tool and that there are even some abusive behaviors related to it. Could you provide some direction from the Word of God to support it? I can provide plenty to show it is not. I pray continually for women who have deceived themselves into thinking that abuse is love. I have also seen stories of people who have escaped this lifestyle who were forced into it, young girls. Women who allow this are teaching their daughters to allow it. I don’t even know what kind of church would allow this behavior among its followers.
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Have you read the blog?
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Yes, I did. It’s vile and it’s not of Jesus Christ.
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How would you even know?
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Because it involves behaviors not described in the Bible that specifically go against biblical principles. I’ve been studying the Bible for 22 years and there is nowhere in the Bible where men discipline their wives in this manner. Woman is the flesh and blood of the man and he is to treat her as he does his own flesh (different even than children, because they do become one flesh). Men don’t beat their own flesh into submission, and in fact, they are supposed to nourish and cherish their wives as they would their own flesh.
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Dear one, Good told me to speak comfortably to you. I can tell by your blog that you are in pain and discomfort. I am continuing in prayer that God will reveal to you His love which is sown in joy and peace through the Holy Ghost. I’ve also asked Good to warn your husband against harming you. Believing God will move on your behalf.
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Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
1 Peter 3:7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
God loves with agape love. Indeed, that is the kind of love meant in Ephesians 5:25. Agape love means giving of oneself, with high esteem, with affection. A man who treats his wife as a child to be disciplined is not esteeming her. While the Bible tells a man to teach his wife, and to be her head, it nowhere implies that physical discipline is to be used. There is no Bible for chastening a disobedient wife through corporal punishment. If this were so, why did God not state it anywhere? He tells us that disobedient children are to be chastened with a rod.
I know that DD people often use Revelation 3:19 (I chasten those whom I love), but this is as CHILDREN of God. Deuteronomy 8:5 says: Thou shalt also consider in thine heart, that, as a man chasteneth his son, so the Lord thy God chasteneth thee. The word of God repeats this over and over, that the chastening of the Lord is as His children, not as the Bride. Jesus never chastens the Bride in this manner.
I pray that you will take this to heart and consider what impact this may have on your life and those around you. A man who abuses his wife is sinning against his own body.
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It’s not abuse and I’m not promoting abuse.
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Jesus would not treat his Bride that way, particularly what you described in paragraph 2, ripping her clothes off and thrashing her severely. A man overpowering a woman in that manner. That is not of the Spirit of Jesus Christ. It is BDSM and you’re trying to call it Christian. Followers of Jesus don’t behave in that manner toward their wives. I pray you will examine yourself. There is nothing in the Bible that tells you to do that to your wife.
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If you really read and understand the Bible, then you know it says that the man is the head of the house. It also says that when the house stands before God on the day of judgement that he will have to answer for EVERYTHING that went on in his house. Since he has to answer for his wife’s doing wrong then as the leader he has every right to discipline his wife to change wrong behaviors.
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Very true!
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There is nowhere in the Bible it advocates such behavior or indicates that a man should do this. God chastens his children. We are spanked as children, not as a wife.
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Read the blog, there are plenty of proofs…
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I suggest you go back and read the Bible. Chastisement is for children and servants. It never says to chastise your wife.
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He is going to have to answer for abusing his wife.
My husband is the head. But, he would never lay a hand on me.
The Bible says perfect love casts out all fear. The love your husband is showing is not the love of God. God is love. A husband is to gently lead, guide, direct, strengthen, etc.. He is never instructed to parent or discipline his wife.
Christianity is not, or SHOULD NOT be based on following a checklist of rules. We must allow Jesus to change us to make us who we need to be. Not my husbands belt.
None of us a perfect, even our husbands, yet God gently leads us and guides us to repentance through His love. Jesus actually did the exact opposite of DD. He said “my bride”/the church deserves punishment, so I am going to take that punishment for her. I am going to go to a cross so I can wash there sins away so they will not have to carry the weight of sin and receive the punishment for it. And husbands are instructed to love their wives as Christ loved the church. That’s love. That’s Christianity.
I hope you can find and experience this love in your marriage. It is the most amazing and beautiful thing in the world! ❤
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Pamela, You are very well meaning here, but wrong. I notice that like others who complain about spanking in marriage, you cannot cite anywhere that the Bible prohibits it. The Bible neither endorses NOR prohibits spanking in marriage, but it does give the man the authority in the home, and if he finds that is the best method, he may use it.
Love and discipline are not in conflict with each other, as some of the passages you cite show quite plainly. God is the ultimate example of love, and God also chastises us. So we cannot pit the husband’s love and sacrifice for his wife against his authority or use of discipline, be it spanking or any other.
Moreover, the Bible endorses the use of corporal punishment multiple times, so you really don’t have leverage to claim physical punishment as unloving on any level. You are free to find non-physical methods of discipline the right ones for you, but you do NOT have the right to claim the use of spanking in marriage is morally wrong.
Regarding your comparison to chastising children, remember that as God’s children in the Church, we ARE His Bride. So if our Lord chastises us, He chastises His Bride, of whom the wife is a picture. That doesn’t prove we should spank in marriage, but it does show you gave a misleading comparison there. Christ punishes His Bride.
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A man;s wife is supposed to be one flesh with him. Chastising her is chastising himself. I see nowhere in scripture at all where a man spanked his wife. If it were godly, and correct, why is it not mentioned? I do not see that in the Hebrew society either. Quite the contrary. I have seen nothing but abuse in this movement and warped and perverted views of marriage. A good man shouldn’t have to beat his wife. But in any case, God will be the judge on men that harm their wives.
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Pamela, You are confirming here what I and others have pointed out: you have no biblical basis to claim that spanking your wife is wrong. It is your opinion. You don’t like it so you slander it as “abuse.” When people try and treat their personal opinion as a religious doctrine, they sin. So I am afraid you are the one who will face God’s judgment for trying to play God yourself.
A man has the authority in marriage, and just as any authority in the world, may discipline those under him. It is loving and for the good of the whole family. And if discipline simply is not loving, you must accuse God also of not being a God of love, since He chastises His beloved, a truth He teaches clearly, multiple times in Scripture.
Your argument against discipline is basically an argument by silence: since God did not command wife spanking, it must be wrong. But that is bad logic. God didn’t command many useful things that we do — including bringing her a box of chocolates — but we do it anyway. You lack any prohibition against the practice in Scripture, so you try and make an argument by silence, which is wholly unconvincing here. That should tell you something.
Discipline is a hard moment to go through, yes, but it is neither cruel nor hateful. It is good and is for the benefit of the beloved. It has helped many marriages.
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Two words; One flesh. You’re whipping yourself.
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Considering the Church is Christ’s own Body, you must next accuse Christ of whipping HIMSELF, since He promises to chastise His children. All whom He loves He chastises.
Give it up, Pamela. The Bible never condemns spanking your wife, and you can’t make it, not matter how hard you try to twist it. That’s because it’s not wrong.
If you don’t like marital discipline, that’s fine. But your opinions are not truth.
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While children are certainly of our flesh and blood, it is only within the covenant of marriage that the Word speaks of “one flesh” and yes, a man who harms his wife harms himself. In fact, the Word says so directly.
Ephesians 5:28-29
28So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
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Pamela, You are wrong, and you are following your own belief system, not what the Bible teaches. As long as you keep repeating your error, I’ll keep repeating what you fail to see, and what leads you to error. You are simply reading your beliefs into Scripture, and there is not one single verse that prohibits corporal punishment of brides. It’s not there. Not is there one single verse that would treat discipline as opposed to love, as you do.
If we follow your logic — that a husband harms himself by “harming” his wife — then Christ does the same thing, since the Church is HIS BODY, and He scourges the Church.
It is His body:
Ephesians 1:22-23
and gave Him to be head over all things to the church,
which is His body, the fullness of Him who fills all in all.
Colossi ans 1:24
I now rejoice in my sufferings for you, and fill up in my flesh what is lacking in the afflictions of Christ, for the sake of His body, which is the church,
He scourges His Body:
Hebrews 12:5-8
And you have forgotten the exhortation which speaks to you as to sons:
“My son, do not despise the chastening of the LORD,
Nor be discouraged when you are rebuked by Him; For whom the LORD loves He chastens,
And scourges every son whom He receives.”
If you endure chastening, God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom a father does not chasten?
But if you are without chastening, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate and not sons.
Revelation 3:19:
“As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten. Therefore be zealous and repent.
The man’s authority is also paralleled to God’s and Christ’s authority:
1 Corinthians 11:3
But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.
Ephesians 5:23:
For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.
So your logic is wrong here. You just wish there was this special category for wives where no spanking may apply, but it cannot actually be found in Scripture.
Moreover, you also assume that punishment is “harm” when in fact punishment is for the GOOD of those who receive it, except perhaps the torments in hell. But temporal punishment is for benefit, and not for harm. A husband BENEFITS his wife when he disciplines her, so then he benefits his own body:
Proverbs 3:11-12
My son, do not despise the chastening of the LORD,
Nor detest His correction;
For whom the LORD loves He corrects,
Just as a father the son in whom he delights.
We see this also in God’s chastisement of Israel:
Deuteronomy 8:5
“You should know in your heart that as a man chastens his son, so the LORD your God chastens you.
Deuteronomy 8:16
that He might humble you and that He might test you, to do you good in the end—
Isaiah 54:7-8:
“For a mere moment I have forsaken you,
But with great mercies I will gather you.
With a little wrath I hid My face from you for a moment;
But with everlasting kindness I will have mercy on you,”
Says the LORD, your Redeemer.
You assume that love and discipline are opposed, when love and discipline go together.
Proverbs 13:24
He who spares his rod hates his son,
But he who loves him disciplines him promptly.
The Lord commands corporal punishment for certain crimes, commands it for children (whom virtually all parents love), and permits it within certain bounds for servants. Your issue then, is with the Lord God, and not with me. No logic nor scriptural verse teaches that if the phrase “one body” appears, you may not spank. That may be your personal belief, but you assume what you have to prove.
Spanking is a loving, and helpful form of correction. A lack of discipline reflects a lack of love. God never prohibits spanking of wives, nor the use of corporal punishment in general. People simply inject their own values into their faith to try and find it there. It’s not there. A man has authority in his home, and may chastise his wife as he finds is best. It is for her good and the good of the whole home. He benefits his own body.
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Men abuse the power that is given them. Women are considered joint-heirs with their husband of dominion.
And you can’t make the Bible say it’s ok to chastise your wife, which is never does. I don’t ever see an example of it or a direct Word on it.
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Pamela, You have never shown that the Bible says it is wrong to chastise a wife. Why can’t you do that?
We only point to the authority that Scripture gives a man, which is paralleled to the authority of Christ and God. Both of them practice chastisement, as do parents, masters, and governments.
I do NOT need a verse that says “it’s okay to spank a wife” and more than I need a verse for every single thing I do. There’s no verse that says it’s okay to have a bedtime for your children, but we have one, and we have one rightly based on our authority as parents.
If spanking a wife is wrong, YOU should prove it, or stop claiming it is wrong. You’re free to have your opinion, but you cannot claim something is sin without any evidence. We do not claim it is mandated, and you should not claim it is wrong.
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Sorry, wrong post. But what you are advocating is not sanctioned by the Bible. It is BDSM. Plain and simple.
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pamelaparzio you say you are a believing Christian so I think you need to think about what you say here. God nowhere in the bible gives us permission to disobey our husbands. So if your husband wanted to punish you for being disobedient or sassy or whatever then how do think you have the right under God’s law to refuse to submit to his punishment? If it’s wrong for him to spank you then that’s between your husband and God, your opinion doesn’t matter one tiny bit. If your husband thinks he should not spank you then that his call. He is the one in authority not you. You need to read your bible girl and prayerfully and meekly submit to your husband’s authority. That is what I try to do, it’s what my mother does , my dad was very strict as I grew up , but he taught us God’s law and God’s way and now my husband is who God has put over me, to guide me, and to correct me when I am bad.
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This is Jane’s husband, I have been reading through what Jane has written and I must say I am quite pleased with all of it. I won’t be making a lot of comments here and I have told Jane not to make too many comments herself, perhaps she has already.
This topic did catch my attention and I believe I can offer a few useful thoughts. First let me say that I am really struck by just insightful your writings are. You really have a deep and sophisticated understanding of the dynamics of Christian family life. I hope your husband is proud of you, he should be.
In your comments above, you get to, at least in my opinion, the core problem you were dealing with when you wrote these comments. Given the date of your comments, I suspect you have resolved these issues. Nevertheless, the issues you write about are, I suspect, pretty common, so my thoughts
I think it makes a significant difference if you were brought up in a home where there was proper discipline as to how you reacted to those times when your husband felt you needed to be punished. Jane was brought up in a very strict home where bare bottom spankings with a strap was used regularly, while your father’s method of correction was, in my opinion with no disrespect, not at all adequate. So, you were faced with REAL punishment, for the very first time, and you were taken aback how much it hurt. So, is your husband being too severe? Well of course I can’t know if he was or not, but I very strongly suspect he was using a reasonable degree of force when he corrected you. You said it, it was your resistance to his authority over you that was the issue.
My own wife’s resistance to my authority at the beginning took a different form. She was openly obedient and submissive to me in my presence, in fact, she amazed and sometimes amused or appalled our friends and relatives with her very open deference she showed me. But she was quite persistent in disobeying me when she thought I would not find out about it.
Needless to say, she was spanked many times the first few years of our marriage, and often quite severely. But I WAS concerned about spanking her too severely, so one technique I used was longer corner times. She hates corner time, so this proved to be effective. If a HOH thinks he is being required by his wife’s persistent bad behavior to spank too severely, he can adjust the ratio of spanking time to corner time.
Corner time rules are straightforward in our house. I adopted the exact same method used in the home Jane grew up in. So, these rules were nothing new for her. All corner time is done in a common room to ensure that the rules are followed the whole time, no breaking position or rubbing. This is generally in the living room. She must stand completely bare from the waist down, with her hands on her head, nose touching the wall. During corner time, she is not allowed to speak to any family member and no one is allowed to speak to her. This is her time to think about why she is in the corner and how she can avoid being in the corner again, especially for the same type of misbehavior.
I want to offer a few words about other punishments such as mouth washing, writing lines, being sent to bed without supper, extra chores etc. I have used all these punishments from time to time. but they are no substitute for spankings. Their only value is as supplementary punishments. The reason for this is simple. These kinds of punishments lack the element of fear, so they can lead to resentment, anger and defiance when that is possible. You make this clear in what you wrote. A spanking on the other hand, always involves fear, and fear can produce real repentance, therefore a lasting and positive change in behavior.
I hope these comments are useful. Once again, I compliment you on your insight and thoughtfulness, as I said your husband should be proud of you. I think you are helping Christian families here.
Ben
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Thank you for the compliment! You both are two role models – if you want to write a small guest post, I ‘ll publish it!
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Jane’s Husband here.
Thank you for your kind offer. I may make a few more comments, I don’t want to make too many, If I think of a topic for a guest post , a short one. I might take you up on this.
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Absolutely … thanks! I really like her comments, because they show the “female perspective”, so to say. That’s great!
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You are an abuser and need to be put in jail…
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No he is not, and no he does not. He is a husband in a relationship with a woman who has consented to being under his authority and to being disciplined. The government can send men with guns to your door if you break the rules. A husband only gives a lecture and a spanking. That is quite humane, and certainly much more so than jail.
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It’s call assault and mental abuse Dave… and you probably deserve to be in a cell next jane’s husband… this is abuse plain and simple.
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The only one who deserves to be “in a cell” is yourself, and likely in a psycho ward. Domestic discipline is a consensual relationship which involves spanking, and you have no business slandering the people who use it.
It is interesting though, since you think spanking is too harsh for humanity, that you threaten people with jail, where the suicide rate is 7-10 times higher than the general population and the rate of assault is so high as to be incalculable. How humane of you.
Spanking is a useful, and ordinary punishment, and helps many relationships. It is also far more humane than prison. You may not like it, but spanking works in a marriage, and can benefit both partners.
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You’re just an S&M pervert trying to subdue a woman to yourself. To justify and brainwash yourself and your woman that perverse desire is simply glorifying it as God’s will. I am a person with SM sexual orientation. I read all the posts here. And I read some articles here, such as how to make a woman obey,
how to spank a woman. And I knew your way of doing that was no different than those who pursued 24/7 bondage. What you write here is something you can see everywhere on the SM site. The Bible says that women should follow men, and men should lead women. I do not deny that.
However, there is nothing to justify violence in the process. Tell me one example of a married prophet in the Bible who spank his wife. You must be honest with your ugly desires before you force women to obey and demand honesty. What you’re writing here and rationalizing is SM’s desire to obey women, not God’s will.
Every man wants a submissive woman and wants complete control over her. But it is an animal instinct, not the will of God.You don’t even want to talk to and discuss with a woman. You don’t want a ‘Wife’ to make a home with you. just want a ‘Fem sub’ who blindly follows you.
You are afraid of losing to a woman. I am not a feminist. On the contrary, I am the one who rules women and gains satisfaction as a Male dom. I am not ashamed of myself like this. But you are calling it the will of God because you are ashamed of your desires.
You’re just a bunch of inferiority complexities. Face yourself. Don’t use the grand word of ‘God’s will’ for your filthy desires. The hottest place in hell is reserved for those people. Remember the word ‘Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord thy God in vain’
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I’m torn between the two worlds. I enjoy watching spankings being given to women online and as long as the plot is believable even totally nude spankings but that’s not too often. Sometimes looking over a few of the writings here I tend to think maybe the discpline is to strict (?) but then the corner time and other items add some interest because you know the wife really would not like that at all. Given a choice between having her bottom beaten till she can’t sit for a few days and corner time I’m sure they’ll take the latter. Each couple has to set up thier own guidelines and I’m sure the wives aren’t going to like being paddled on their bare bottoms either. If your going to spank her you have to make sure her bottom is RED and I’d like to see some marks on her sit area too. Paddles, hairbrushes I’m ok with , straps maybe, canes also ? Not sure if I agree with the woman having to be naked but I understand it does add more discomfort and embarrassment to the punishment. I read your blog and DOMESTIC DISCPLINE, similar blogs. Mouth soaping along with a spanking is good too.
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I have to say that i am spanked pretty harshly everytime i recieve a spanking.
If i cant sit comfortably for a couple of days afterwards, then it was very effective. The discomfort of sitting for a few days is a great reminder of what i did wrong and to behave. He also gives me a little swat here or there to make bring back the sting, and rwm. Which I usually dont earn another punishment spanking for months.
I understand being afraid to of the consequences, and how tempting it is to fib to keep from going over his knee…but the thing to consider the most is the consequences when he finds out about the lying. Not only do you get it worse, But trust between you is damaged. He loses his trust in you. And trust me. That hurts Way more than any kind of spanking.
It broke my heart to hear him say, “if i cant trust you to tell me the truth about the little things, then when can i trust you? You have a lot to earn back, little lady.”
Yep. That was over skipping my meds for a few days and him finding out almost a month later. All because i was afraid of getting spanked.
Well..when he added on the lying, i was grounded for almost 3 weeks, cornertime, early bedtime, 1 to 2 table spoons of castor oil every night. Then on my last day of grounding, he took a day off work just to finish out my punishment.
I had to take 3 tablespoons of castor oil, 15 minute cornertime, the leather paddle, 10 minute cornertime, the rubber strap, 10 minute corner time, then the dreaded wooden paddle, and 20 minutes cornertime. Not to mention Heart wrenching lectures. I couldnt sit comfortably for a week and my bruises took a long while to heal. I havent lied since, and never will.
So yes i think you are correct. Submitting to a spanking is a way of showing him you trusy him fully.
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This is the most insane thread I have ever read. I am speechless. I don’t understand why someone would 1. Take scriptures out of context and deeply misinterpreted as an excuse to abuse, humiliate, demean and condescend one of the most precious gifts God has ever given him. 2. Nothing about this practice is “Christian” or acceptable. Ridiculous! 3. A husbands job is to emulate Christ to his wife. Christ took the punishment for his bride. He gave his life for his bride. The woman who was caught in the act of adultery and everyone wanted to stone her. Jesus knelt down and wrote in the sand and with love, compassion, mercy and grace he forgave her and told her to go and sin no more. Futhermore, he looked at all those with stones and said “you without sin cast the first stone.” Humanity is flawed in imperfect by the sin of this world. MEN TOO!! Who is providing that correction or discipline to these men when they exhibit any type of short coming?? Are they exempt from wrong. I think not.
The Bible says the two become one when joined together in marriage. A wife is not a possession or a belonging. You are one. Growing together. When one falls, the other picks them up. 4. Humanity can not change another person. A man cannot make his wife be a better person by hitting/beating her (spanking is hitting/beating). It is God who only has the power to change an individuals heart. God creates in us a clean heart and renews a right spirit within us. (That’s Bible). Being the head of a family does not make you God to your wife. Again not a biblical principle.
Please study the Bible. Love your wife the way God intended you too. Love has way more power than hitting. God is love.
I could go on and on. I hope this resonates with someone and they will come to find a happy healthy marriage where the true love and gentleness of God will be active.
The love, kindness and gentleness my husband has shown me is powerful. His godly character, who he is as a man, how he treats people, has made me want to be better. It is powerful. I am a better person because of my husband. He leads by example, with humility. He has never put me down, laid a hand on me, criticized me.
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Thank you for the blog post. Regarding the negative comments, they are off base. A husband disciplining his wife is well within the role of an authority by biblical standards. One does not need an express biblical mandate to do so, as we do thousands of things not expressly commanded in the Bible. The Bible gives husbands the authority, as the head of the home, and they may use discipline as needed.
Those who attack spanking as not Christian cannot provide a biblical or logical proof that it is wrong. Opponents of spanking just make their assertion and that’s it. Spanking certainly does not go against the principle of love, since love includes discipline too. Love and discipline are not mutually exclusive at all. Spanking is an excellent tool for a husband to use in marriage in correcting his wife and is ethical for the Christian to use. He does not have to use it, but he may.
There would be more peaceful, happy, and lasting marriages if more men disciplined their wives.
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thank you Dave , i can’t agree more
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