How To Do Corner Time Correctly!

Corner Time is a classic Loving Domestic Discipline technique. Although not all couples use Corner Time when the woman is spanked, for many it is an integral part of the discipline process.

To find out more, read the following article, but take your time as it’s fairly long (5500 words).

Use these anchors to jump to the respective points:

Introduction 

Corner Time – the details

Scolding

Why should a woman be given Corner Time?

Discipline

The humbling Effect

Increasing Spanking

Forcing to reflect

Checking the spankings’ consequences

How should Corner Time be carried out?

When should Corner Time occur?

Conclusion

 

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Introduction

Corner Time simply involves making the woman stand in the corner, facing inwards. It can be used as a punishment in itself, but usually it is used in conjunction with a spanking for maximum benefit. The woman is required to stand in the corner either for a set time – eg ten minutes, half an hour, etc – or until she is told to leave the corner. Corner Time does not even have to take place in a corner. If a corner is not available due to furniture or other considerations, the woman can simply be put facing a wall, quite close to it. She could even be positioned in the center of the room, if this is more appropriate.

Usually she is positioned facing into the corner so that her freshly-spanked bottom is on display. This position is designed to be humbling for her. It is a reminder to her that she has just been soundly spanked for misbehavior. Her reddened bottom is facing outwards as visible evidence of her misbehavior and of her resulting discipline spanking. Although she will naturally want to rub her bottom when she is in the corner, to make the sting go away, she should normally be prevented from doing so. It is important that she be obliged to display her bottom as proof of her discipline. This is a major part of the humbling effect of Corner Time.

Occasionally a woman might be made to stand in the corner facing towards the center of the room, rather than facing into the corner. The reason that her HOH might order her to do this is because he might want to see whether she is crying or not, or if she is already crying, to make sure that her tears (and hopefully, her remorse and repentance) are visible and evident. Crying visibly in front of him can also be quite humbling for her and can be a useful part of her discipline.

When a woman is put in the corner, she is usually put in a position that she can sustain over a reasonable period of time, since she may be standing there for up to an hour. Although many HOH’s tell the woman to thrust out her bottom while she is in the corner, to increase the visibility of the results of her spanking, she needs to be able to hold that position without getting a sore back. Similarly, if a woman is made to kneel in the corner rather than stand there, she should normally be allowed to kneel on a cushion or something soft enough to protect her knees from being damaged by a hard floor. The spanking is meant to be inflicted on her buttocks, not on her knees, after all.

Sometimes a woman is made to clasp her hands behind her head and keep them there during her Corner Time. This prevents her from rubbing her bottom or doing anything else with her hands and is a useful technique used by many couples where Corner Time is a part of a normal spanking session. It also helps her to arch her back a little more. Arching her back helps to push her bottom out further, which both exposes the site of her spanking more and also makes her feel more vulnerable. Again, the overall effect on her is humbling and therefore quite appropriate for a discipline spanking.

Corner Time – the details

Normally, a woman should be naked during Corner Time because her nudity helps her to feel more submissive and vulnerable, which both contribute to the disciplinary effect of the session. If she is not fully naked, she should at least be naked from the waist down, so that her bottom is on display. As you have probably already realized, the display of her spanked bottom is an integral part of Corner Time. So too is the position that she must adopt during it.

Sometimes an HOH will require his woman to stand with her legs more widely apart. For example, she may have to stand with her feet shoulder width apart, or even more widely spaced. The purpose of this is to expose the areas between her legs and (if she has to stand with her feet more widely apart) to expose the area between her buttock cheeks. Obviously this can be intensely humbling for her because of her extreme nakedness and vulnerability in this position. Many women find this position very embarrassing, but even those who do not find it embarrassing may still find it quite humbling. Again, this is all part of the desired effect of Corner Time. This effect is enhanced if her HOH remains with her in the room for the entire duration of her Corner Time.

Scolding

Corner Time is an excellent opportunity for scolding. Just because the spanking is over does not mean that she cannot receive additional scolding. Sometimes a woman will not cry during her spanking, but will be brought to tears by some effective scolding during her Corner Time. It does not even have to be harsh scolding – sometimes just a few quiet words to her about how much she has let herself down and how much she has disappointed her HOH can be enough to bring a woman to tears as she stands in the corner. If she has been especially naughty and her punishment has been especially serious, she may be ordered not to dry her eyes with her hands or arms as she cries. The feeling of the tears running down her face and onto her chest can be very humbling and effective as a discipline in itself.

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Scolding is not the only thing that can take place while a woman is standing in the corner. This Corner Time is also an opportunity to give her a few extra spanks, which might be interspersed with some scolding. Her bottom should be plainly visible if she is in the corner, so it is a simple matter for her HOH to walk over to her and deliver several swats to her bottom with his hand (or a paddle or his belt) if he feels that she needs a further lesson in submission or obedience. These extra swats administered to her bottom during Corner Time can be very effective in reminding her of her obligations to herself, to her HOH and to other people. Because of the different psychological experience of Corner Time compared to her actual spanking time, a few swats given during Corner Time can carry great significance and therefore have a highly beneficial effect on her attitude.

 

Why should a woman be given Corner Time?

What are the reasons for using Corner Time in a Loving Domestic Discipline relationship? What are the effects of Corner Time that are so beneficial for the woman who is being disciplined? There are many different effects and reasons for using Corner Time.

Discipline

The first is that Corner Time is a discipline in itself. Although it does not necessarily involve spanking, it is still a continuation of the disciplinary session and the disciplinary process. If it were not for Corner Time, the woman would just put on her clothes and resume her day or evening. But Corner Time is an extension of the discipline session because she is required to stand in the corner by her HOH and must remain there for a certain amount of time. She would not go and stand in the corner of her own accord. It is a discipline that is imposed on her by her HOH and which she must submit to. Even though Corner Time does not have the pain of a spanking, some women find it more overwhelming to consider than a spanking. Some women will submit to a spanking more willingly than to Corner Time.

The humbling Effect

The main reason for this difference in submission is that Corner Time is also deeply humbling for the woman. It is, in some ways, a much bigger test of her submission and obedience to her HOH than even a spanking, which is much more physically painful. Gravity and the strong arm of her husband tend to hold a woman in place during her spanking. During Corner Time, however, there is nothing to keep a woman in that corner except her own submission and obedience to her man’s will. So she must face and overcome her own internal demons in order to remain there for more than a second or two. She must overcome that part of her which tells her to flee the room, to ignore her HOH’s command, and to regain her freedom. This can involve a big internal battle for the disciplined woman in some cases.

The humbling effect of Corner Time is one of its main benefits for her. Of course, her spanking is also designed to be humbling, but it is also designed to be reasonably painful. Corner Time, on the other hand, is not especially painful, so the woman becomes acutely aware of its power to humble her in a way that the spanking never did. Corner Time requires her to become an active participant in her own discipline, because it is only through submission to the will of her HOH that she can remain standing in that corner.

A woman feels humbled by Corner Time for a number of different reasons. The requirement that she submit to her HOH is the first humbling aspect. The fact that she must be obedient to his order is also humbling for her. The fact that she is being treated like a naughty child is also deeply humbling for a woman, but very effective in a disciplinary sense. These are strong psychological causes of humility. But the physical factors are also significant. She has to stand there in the corner, totally nude, with her spanked bottom completely visible to her HOH. Of course, this ignores the fact that he has just had a much closer view of her bottom, since he was the one who spanked it. This fact does not diminish, for many women, the humbling effect of being put on display in the corner, so that the evidence of their bad behavior and the resulting discipline is highly obvious.

Increasing Spanking

Another important reason to use Corner Time is that it permits a woman’s spanking to be increased. Some women cannot handle more than a certain number of swats without crying so loudly that their HOH starts to fear for their wellbeing. This behavior may prevent him from giving her as many swats or strokes as she really needs, in order to be disciplined properly. This kind of woman may need to have her spanking spread out over two or more sessions, so that she can receive a series of spankings that together, add up to the total amount of discipline that she actually needs to have her attitude properly adjusted, so that she is fully corrected. What takes place between each of these spanking sessions, of course, is Corner Time. This provides a break to the spanking which allows the woman to catch her breath and compose herself.

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A Loving Domestic Discipline session might begin with the woman receiving a good spanking until, in the view of her HOH, she can take no more. At this point, he would order her to the corner for a dose of Corner Time. Then, when the HOH decides it is appropriate, she can be called out of the corner and put back over his knee for another round of spanking. This is usually enough, but when it is not, another session of Corner Time followed by another spanking session over his knee can easily be added to her discipline. Because Corner Time is also a discipline in itself, it provides a useful and effective pause between actual spanking. By enabling a longer and harder spanking to be given to a woman who might not normally be able to take so much, Corner Time also enables a far more effective discipline to occur. This is because Corner Time facilitates a more effective spanking, which increases the likelihood that the woman will be brought to tears. Bringing her to tears is a really important part of Loving Domestic Discipline and is discussed in more detail in the article called, “Tears.”

Forcing to reflect

Another important reason that Corner Time is very helpful and effective in a Loving Domestic Discipline session is that it forces the woman to reflect. When she first arrives in the corner, she may be too busy sobbing and being aware of the pain in her bottom to think about anything else. But after a few minutes, this passes. It is for this reason that Corner Time usually lasts for at least ten minutes and often up to an hour or even more. A few minutes need to elapse at the beginning to allow her to get over her crying and to let the physical pain of the spanking subside to manageable levels for her.

Corner Time can function as a sort of enforced period of reflection for the woman. Once she has stopped crying (if she is already crying), she is faced with the reality of herself. The corner itself is usually pretty boring. It’s meant to be! The corner is a boring place to be. When a woman is put into a boring place, she is obliged to go inside herself, because there is nowhere else to go. The corner usually doesn’t have any pictures in it, so there is nothing especially interesting to look at. So she has to reflect.

What does she reflect on? Usually, a woman experiencing Corner Time is not thinking about the groceries or home renovation issues. She is thinking about the pain of the spanking that she has just received. She is thinking about the fact that her bottom feels like it is on fire, the fact that it still throbs from her spanking. She is thinking about the tears running down her face, the tears that she is not allowed to wipe away. She is thinking how thoroughly miserable she is. She may even be wondering why she married such a cruel man as her husband, who thinks nothing of spanking her cruelly until she is reduced to such a state.

Once she has processed these initial thoughts and entertained any fantasies of revenge she may have against her HOH, a woman is most likely to think of the reason (or reasons) for her spanking. She may think back to the circumstances that led to her discipline and wish they had never taken place. She may even identify, in her mind, the exact moment when she made the fatal decision that led directly to her Loving Domestic Discipline session and her presence in the corner right now. This is exactly what is supposed to happen during Corner Time.

She may also reflect on her own responsibility for her discipline. She may ask herself why she allowed herself to misbehave in such a silly way, to behave in a way that was harmful to one or more people, herself included. She may wonder why she let herself make such a stupid mistake. And if she hasn’t already realized it, she may start to actually take some emotional and intellectual responsibility for her actions. Teaching a woman responsibility for her own words and actions is one of the prime benefits of Loving Domestic Discipline. We live in a world where we have more and more rights, yet we seek constantly to evade our responsibilities. Lawyers are designed to help people escape their responsibilities. A woman may have a whole array of arguments as to why she was caught misbehaving, yet in the end, they are usually as relevant as a whole set of legalistic arguments about points of law. In the end, she is responsible. And with her responsibility come consequences. Her consequence is Loving Domestic Discipline and the spanking and Corner Time that it involves.

By reflecting on her harmful actions or words during Corner Time, the woman can gradually begin to take responsibility for them. She can mentally process the sequence of events that led to her irresponsible misbehavior that harmed herself, her HOH or other people in some way. She can begin to understand that she is responsible, that she wasn’t possessed by an evil spirit who made her behave badly, or driven to misbehavior because she had too much sugar in her breakfast cereal.

As discussed previously, Corner Time also provides a good opportunity for scolding. This helps to remind the woman of what she has done wrong, and also how she should behave in the future. This scolding can, amongst other things, help her to realize her responsibility for her own words and actions and the hurt they may cause.

Checking the spankings’ consequences

Corner Time is also an opportunity for her HOH to look carefully at her bottom to see if he has spanked it evenly and thoroughly. If he was using an implement such as a leather belt, he may discover that he has favored one side of her bottom, rather than spanking both buttocks evenly. Or he may see that he has allowed the belt to wrap around her bottom and strike her hip, which is not desirable, since spanking should be confined to the woman’s bottom only. This examination of the results of the discipline is very useful to the HOH and should be carried out when he imposes Corner Time on his woman. It helps him to refine his technique for future disciplines, and it also tells him if he needs to concentrate more on her other buttock later, if he is planning to impose another spanking session on her after the Corner Time is finished.

Another good reason to use Corner Time is that it provides the woman with a good opportunity to cry after her spanking is over. It keeps her in the mood of her spanking, since Corner Time is itself a form of discipline. This helps her tears to continue flowing, if they have already started. If she has not already started crying, sometimes her thoughts and feelings during Corner Time can help to bring her to tears. At other times, the scolding that she receives from her HOH during Corner Time can be the catalyst in starting the flow of her tears. It may even be the sense of humiliation or humility that she feels as a result of being made to stand naked in the corner that gets her crying. Whatever the cause of her tears, Corner Time is a golden opportunity for her to have a good cry about her spanking and her misbehavior. She usually has plenty of time available to her during Corner Time, so she need not worry about her crying being interrupted by other responsibilities.

How should Corner Time be carried out?

Well, it is pretty simple, really. The HOH tells his woman to go and stand in the corner, either for a specified time or until he tells her she can leave. In either case, he should be the one to release her from the corner. If she is looking at her watch or a clock in the room, she will have a visual escape from the monotony of the corner, which should not happen. Corner Time is meant to focus her attention on herself, not on timepieces.

The HOH should be strict about Corner Time. He should not tolerate any disrespect or disobedience before, during or after his woman’s Corner Time. If she shows any sign of not taking it seriously, he should consider pulling her over his knee again and giving her a Disobedience Discipline to discourage her flippancy, before forcibly returning her, freshly spanked and crying, to the corner. He needs to ensure that she treats Corner Time as a period of enforced self-reflection, not as an opportunity for disobedience.

Some HOH’s leave the room during Corner Time because they have other things to do. This is fine as long as he returns to the room from time to time, to check that the woman is still standing obediently in the corner. If he leaves her for an hour and she is sure that he will not return, she may be tempted to sit down on the floor or even go elsewhere. Obviously this completely destroys the intended result of her Corner Time and so it should be strongly discouraged. If he returns to check on her at different intervals, she will never know when he may look into the room. Thus she will be obliged to remain in the corner as ordered, rather than disobeying his instructions. If an HOH does check on his woman and discover that she is no longer in the position in which he left her, he should of course apply a firm Disobedience Discipline to her so that she learns obedience during Corner Time, which is still part of her discipline.

Some HOH’s may prefer to use more high-tech methods of ensuring their woman’s compliance with her Corner Time. They might connect some kind of video camera up so that they can monitor her Corner Time remotely (ie, from another room in the home). This is actually almost as beneficial and effective as physically entering the room from time to time. The only difference is that when the HOH enters the room, the woman tends to be on her best behavior because of the risk that he might give her a few extra smacks on her bottom as she stands in the corner. He certainly can’t spank her if he is watching her on the video monitor in another room.

When should Corner Time occur?

It can in fact occur at any time during the disciplinary process. Sometimes an HOH sends his woman to the bedroom and tells her to wait for him in the corner. This is an example of Corner Time happening even before the spanking has started. Some men may tell the woman to go to the bedroom, remove her clothes and stand in the corner of the room, with her nose pressed into the corner and her hands clasped behind her head. That is a classic example of pre-spanking Corner Time in Loving Domestic Discipline.

Corner Time can of course take place in the middle of the spanking, where it functions as a pause or break between discipline sessions, giving the woman time to catch her breath and reflect on what she has done, as well as what has transpired so far in her spanking. This has already been discussed in an earlier section and need not be repeated here.

Corner Time can also take place after the spanking is over. Sometimes the HOH will hug, comfort and dry the tears of his woman before sending her to the corner, and sometimes he will put her in the corner for a while before taking her in his arms and comforting and forgiving her. Either approach is fine. Choosing which one to use depends on the woman and on the particular severity of the spanking that she has received. An HOH should be reasonably organic, flexible and sensitive when disciplining his woman, so that he can know best how to treat her at any time. The loving connection between them (which is strengthened by Loving Domestic Discipline) helps him to know what she is feeling. When he is in any doubt, though, he simply has to ask her to find out what she is feeling and thinking. Then he has all the information he needs to both discipline and comfort her, as appropriate.

Corner Time can take place in any room of the home, as long as reasonable privacy is maintained. Use your common sense here. The woman must not be given Corner Time in a room that her children might wander into by mistake, or in a room that is too cold for a nude woman to withstand for the duration of her discipline. But as long as these sensible requirements (and any others that may apply) are met, she can be put into any corner of any room of the home.

Conclusion

So although Corner Time is not a compulsory or mandatory part of every discipline for every couple that practices Loving Domestic Discipline, it is certainly a very useful component of the disciplinary process for many couples. If you are currently practicing Loving Domestic Discipline but are not using Corner Time during discipline sessions, it may be worthwhile sitting down and discussing with each other whether it would be a useful addition to your standard spanking procedure. Many women find Corner Time very chastening and salutory in its effects.

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