How To Do Corner Time Correctly!

Corner Time is a classic Loving Domestic Discipline technique. Although not all couples use Corner Time when the woman is spanked, for many it is an integral part of the discipline process.

To find out more, read the following article, but take your time as it’s fairly long (5500 words).

Use these anchors to jump to the respective points:

Introduction 

Corner Time – the details

Scolding

Why should a woman be given Corner Time?

Discipline

The humbling Effect

Increasing Spanking

Forcing to reflect

Checking the spankings’ consequences

How should Corner Time be carried out?

When should Corner Time occur?

Conclusion

 

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Introduction

Corner Time simply involves making the woman stand in the corner, facing inwards. It can be used as a punishment in itself, but usually it is used in conjunction with a spanking for maximum benefit. The woman is required to stand in the corner either for a set time – eg ten minutes, half an hour, etc – or until she is told to leave the corner. Corner Time does not even have to take place in a corner. If a corner is not available due to furniture or other considerations, the woman can simply be put facing a wall, quite close to it. She could even be positioned in the center of the room, if this is more appropriate.

Usually she is positioned facing into the corner so that her freshly-spanked bottom is on display. This position is designed to be humbling for her. It is a reminder to her that she has just been soundly spanked for misbehavior. Her reddened bottom is facing outwards as visible evidence of her misbehavior and of her resulting discipline spanking. Although she will naturally want to rub her bottom when she is in the corner, to make the sting go away, she should normally be prevented from doing so. It is important that she be obliged to display her bottom as proof of her discipline. This is a major part of the humbling effect of Corner Time.

Occasionally a woman might be made to stand in the corner facing towards the center of the room, rather than facing into the corner. The reason that her HOH might order her to do this is because he might want to see whether she is crying or not, or if she is already crying, to make sure that her tears (and hopefully, her remorse and repentance) are visible and evident. Crying visibly in front of him can also be quite humbling for her and can be a useful part of her discipline.

When a woman is put in the corner, she is usually put in a position that she can sustain over a reasonable period of time, since she may be standing there for up to an hour. Although many HOH’s tell the woman to thrust out her bottom while she is in the corner, to increase the visibility of the results of her spanking, she needs to be able to hold that position without getting a sore back. Similarly, if a woman is made to kneel in the corner rather than stand there, she should normally be allowed to kneel on a cushion or something soft enough to protect her knees from being damaged by a hard floor. The spanking is meant to be inflicted on her buttocks, not on her knees, after all.

Sometimes a woman is made to clasp her hands behind her head and keep them there during her Corner Time. This prevents her from rubbing her bottom or doing anything else with her hands and is a useful technique used by many couples where Corner Time is a part of a normal spanking session. It also helps her to arch her back a little more. Arching her back helps to push her bottom out further, which both exposes the site of her spanking more and also makes her feel more vulnerable. Again, the overall effect on her is humbling and therefore quite appropriate for a discipline spanking.

Corner Time – the details

Normally, a woman should be naked during Corner Time because her nudity helps her to feel more submissive and vulnerable, which both contribute to the disciplinary effect of the session. If she is not fully naked, she should at least be naked from the waist down, so that her bottom is on display. As you have probably already realized, the display of her spanked bottom is an integral part of Corner Time. So too is the position that she must adopt during it.

Sometimes an HOH will require his woman to stand with her legs more widely apart. For example, she may have to stand with her feet shoulder width apart, or even more widely spaced. The purpose of this is to expose the areas between her legs and (if she has to stand with her feet more widely apart) to expose the area between her buttock cheeks. Obviously this can be intensely humbling for her because of her extreme nakedness and vulnerability in this position. Many women find this position very embarrassing, but even those who do not find it embarrassing may still find it quite humbling. Again, this is all part of the desired effect of Corner Time. This effect is enhanced if her HOH remains with her in the room for the entire duration of her Corner Time.

Scolding

Corner Time is an excellent opportunity for scolding. Just because the spanking is over does not mean that she cannot receive additional scolding. Sometimes a woman will not cry during her spanking, but will be brought to tears by some effective scolding during her Corner Time. It does not even have to be harsh scolding – sometimes just a few quiet words to her about how much she has let herself down and how much she has disappointed her HOH can be enough to bring a woman to tears as she stands in the corner. If she has been especially naughty and her punishment has been especially serious, she may be ordered not to dry her eyes with her hands or arms as she cries. The feeling of the tears running down her face and onto her chest can be very humbling and effective as a discipline in itself.

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Scolding is not the only thing that can take place while a woman is standing in the corner. This Corner Time is also an opportunity to give her a few extra spanks, which might be interspersed with some scolding. Her bottom should be plainly visible if she is in the corner, so it is a simple matter for her HOH to walk over to her and deliver several swats to her bottom with his hand (or a paddle or his belt) if he feels that she needs a further lesson in submission or obedience. These extra swats administered to her bottom during Corner Time can be very effective in reminding her of her obligations to herself, to her HOH and to other people. Because of the different psychological experience of Corner Time compared to her actual spanking time, a few swats given during Corner Time can carry great significance and therefore have a highly beneficial effect on her attitude.

 

Why should a woman be given Corner Time?

What are the reasons for using Corner Time in a Loving Domestic Discipline relationship? What are the effects of Corner Time that are so beneficial for the woman who is being disciplined? There are many different effects and reasons for using Corner Time.

Discipline

The first is that Corner Time is a discipline in itself. Although it does not necessarily involve spanking, it is still a continuation of the disciplinary session and the disciplinary process. If it were not for Corner Time, the woman would just put on her clothes and resume her day or evening. But Corner Time is an extension of the discipline session because she is required to stand in the corner by her HOH and must remain there for a certain amount of time. She would not go and stand in the corner of her own accord. It is a discipline that is imposed on her by her HOH and which she must submit to. Even though Corner Time does not have the pain of a spanking, some women find it more overwhelming to consider than a spanking. Some women will submit to a spanking more willingly than to Corner Time.

The humbling Effect

The main reason for this difference in submission is that Corner Time is also deeply humbling for the woman. It is, in some ways, a much bigger test of her submission and obedience to her HOH than even a spanking, which is much more physically painful. Gravity and the strong arm of her husband tend to hold a woman in place during her spanking. During Corner Time, however, there is nothing to keep a woman in that corner except her own submission and obedience to her man’s will. So she must face and overcome her own internal demons in order to remain there for more than a second or two. She must overcome that part of her which tells her to flee the room, to ignore her HOH’s command, and to regain her freedom. This can involve a big internal battle for the disciplined woman in some cases.

The humbling effect of Corner Time is one of its main benefits for her. Of course, her spanking is also designed to be humbling, but it is also designed to be reasonably painful. Corner Time, on the other hand, is not especially painful, so the woman becomes acutely aware of its power to humble her in a way that the spanking never did. Corner Time requires her to become an active participant in her own discipline, because it is only through submission to the will of her HOH that she can remain standing in that corner.

A woman feels humbled by Corner Time for a number of different reasons. The requirement that she submit to her HOH is the first humbling aspect. The fact that she must be obedient to his order is also humbling for her. The fact that she is being treated like a naughty child is also deeply humbling for a woman, but very effective in a disciplinary sense. These are strong psychological causes of humility. But the physical factors are also significant. She has to stand there in the corner, totally nude, with her spanked bottom completely visible to her HOH. Of course, this ignores the fact that he has just had a much closer view of her bottom, since he was the one who spanked it. This fact does not diminish, for many women, the humbling effect of being put on display in the corner, so that the evidence of their bad behavior and the resulting discipline is highly obvious.

Increasing Spanking

Another important reason to use Corner Time is that it permits a woman’s spanking to be increased. Some women cannot handle more than a certain number of swats without crying so loudly that their HOH starts to fear for their wellbeing. This behavior may prevent him from giving her as many swats or strokes as she really needs, in order to be disciplined properly. This kind of woman may need to have her spanking spread out over two or more sessions, so that she can receive a series of spankings that together, add up to the total amount of discipline that she actually needs to have her attitude properly adjusted, so that she is fully corrected. What takes place between each of these spanking sessions, of course, is Corner Time. This provides a break to the spanking which allows the woman to catch her breath and compose herself.

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A Loving Domestic Discipline session might begin with the woman receiving a good spanking until, in the view of her HOH, she can take no more. At this point, he would order her to the corner for a dose of Corner Time. Then, when the HOH decides it is appropriate, she can be called out of the corner and put back over his knee for another round of spanking. This is usually enough, but when it is not, another session of Corner Time followed by another spanking session over his knee can easily be added to her discipline. Because Corner Time is also a discipline in itself, it provides a useful and effective pause between actual spanking. By enabling a longer and harder spanking to be given to a woman who might not normally be able to take so much, Corner Time also enables a far more effective discipline to occur. This is because Corner Time facilitates a more effective spanking, which increases the likelihood that the woman will be brought to tears. Bringing her to tears is a really important part of Loving Domestic Discipline and is discussed in more detail in the article called, “Tears.”

Forcing to reflect

Another important reason that Corner Time is very helpful and effective in a Loving Domestic Discipline session is that it forces the woman to reflect. When she first arrives in the corner, she may be too busy sobbing and being aware of the pain in her bottom to think about anything else. But after a few minutes, this passes. It is for this reason that Corner Time usually lasts for at least ten minutes and often up to an hour or even more. A few minutes need to elapse at the beginning to allow her to get over her crying and to let the physical pain of the spanking subside to manageable levels for her.

Corner Time can function as a sort of enforced period of reflection for the woman. Once she has stopped crying (if she is already crying), she is faced with the reality of herself. The corner itself is usually pretty boring. It’s meant to be! The corner is a boring place to be. When a woman is put into a boring place, she is obliged to go inside herself, because there is nowhere else to go. The corner usually doesn’t have any pictures in it, so there is nothing especially interesting to look at. So she has to reflect.

What does she reflect on? Usually, a woman experiencing Corner Time is not thinking about the groceries or home renovation issues. She is thinking about the pain of the spanking that she has just received. She is thinking about the fact that her bottom feels like it is on fire, the fact that it still throbs from her spanking. She is thinking about the tears running down her face, the tears that she is not allowed to wipe away. She is thinking how thoroughly miserable she is. She may even be wondering why she married such a cruel man as her husband, who thinks nothing of spanking her cruelly until she is reduced to such a state.

Once she has processed these initial thoughts and entertained any fantasies of revenge she may have against her HOH, a woman is most likely to think of the reason (or reasons) for her spanking. She may think back to the circumstances that led to her discipline and wish they had never taken place. She may even identify, in her mind, the exact moment when she made the fatal decision that led directly to her Loving Domestic Discipline session and her presence in the corner right now. This is exactly what is supposed to happen during Corner Time.

She may also reflect on her own responsibility for her discipline. She may ask herself why she allowed herself to misbehave in such a silly way, to behave in a way that was harmful to one or more people, herself included. She may wonder why she let herself make such a stupid mistake. And if she hasn’t already realized it, she may start to actually take some emotional and intellectual responsibility for her actions. Teaching a woman responsibility for her own words and actions is one of the prime benefits of Loving Domestic Discipline. We live in a world where we have more and more rights, yet we seek constantly to evade our responsibilities. Lawyers are designed to help people escape their responsibilities. A woman may have a whole array of arguments as to why she was caught misbehaving, yet in the end, they are usually as relevant as a whole set of legalistic arguments about points of law. In the end, she is responsible. And with her responsibility come consequences. Her consequence is Loving Domestic Discipline and the spanking and Corner Time that it involves.

By reflecting on her harmful actions or words during Corner Time, the woman can gradually begin to take responsibility for them. She can mentally process the sequence of events that led to her irresponsible misbehavior that harmed herself, her HOH or other people in some way. She can begin to understand that she is responsible, that she wasn’t possessed by an evil spirit who made her behave badly, or driven to misbehavior because she had too much sugar in her breakfast cereal.

As discussed previously, Corner Time also provides a good opportunity for scolding. This helps to remind the woman of what she has done wrong, and also how she should behave in the future. This scolding can, amongst other things, help her to realize her responsibility for her own words and actions and the hurt they may cause.

Checking the spankings’ consequences

Corner Time is also an opportunity for her HOH to look carefully at her bottom to see if he has spanked it evenly and thoroughly. If he was using an implement such as a leather belt, he may discover that he has favored one side of her bottom, rather than spanking both buttocks evenly. Or he may see that he has allowed the belt to wrap around her bottom and strike her hip, which is not desirable, since spanking should be confined to the woman’s bottom only. This examination of the results of the discipline is very useful to the HOH and should be carried out when he imposes Corner Time on his woman. It helps him to refine his technique for future disciplines, and it also tells him if he needs to concentrate more on her other buttock later, if he is planning to impose another spanking session on her after the Corner Time is finished.

Another good reason to use Corner Time is that it provides the woman with a good opportunity to cry after her spanking is over. It keeps her in the mood of her spanking, since Corner Time is itself a form of discipline. This helps her tears to continue flowing, if they have already started. If she has not already started crying, sometimes her thoughts and feelings during Corner Time can help to bring her to tears. At other times, the scolding that she receives from her HOH during Corner Time can be the catalyst in starting the flow of her tears. It may even be the sense of humiliation or humility that she feels as a result of being made to stand naked in the corner that gets her crying. Whatever the cause of her tears, Corner Time is a golden opportunity for her to have a good cry about her spanking and her misbehavior. She usually has plenty of time available to her during Corner Time, so she need not worry about her crying being interrupted by other responsibilities.

How should Corner Time be carried out?

Well, it is pretty simple, really. The HOH tells his woman to go and stand in the corner, either for a specified time or until he tells her she can leave. In either case, he should be the one to release her from the corner. If she is looking at her watch or a clock in the room, she will have a visual escape from the monotony of the corner, which should not happen. Corner Time is meant to focus her attention on herself, not on timepieces.

The HOH should be strict about Corner Time. He should not tolerate any disrespect or disobedience before, during or after his woman’s Corner Time. If she shows any sign of not taking it seriously, he should consider pulling her over his knee again and giving her a Disobedience Discipline to discourage her flippancy, before forcibly returning her, freshly spanked and crying, to the corner. He needs to ensure that she treats Corner Time as a period of enforced self-reflection, not as an opportunity for disobedience.

Some HOH’s leave the room during Corner Time because they have other things to do. This is fine as long as he returns to the room from time to time, to check that the woman is still standing obediently in the corner. If he leaves her for an hour and she is sure that he will not return, she may be tempted to sit down on the floor or even go elsewhere. Obviously this completely destroys the intended result of her Corner Time and so it should be strongly discouraged. If he returns to check on her at different intervals, she will never know when he may look into the room. Thus she will be obliged to remain in the corner as ordered, rather than disobeying his instructions. If an HOH does check on his woman and discover that she is no longer in the position in which he left her, he should of course apply a firm Disobedience Discipline to her so that she learns obedience during Corner Time, which is still part of her discipline.

Some HOH’s may prefer to use more high-tech methods of ensuring their woman’s compliance with her Corner Time. They might connect some kind of video camera up so that they can monitor her Corner Time remotely (ie, from another room in the home). This is actually almost as beneficial and effective as physically entering the room from time to time. The only difference is that when the HOH enters the room, the woman tends to be on her best behavior because of the risk that he might give her a few extra smacks on her bottom as she stands in the corner. He certainly can’t spank her if he is watching her on the video monitor in another room.

When should Corner Time occur?

It can in fact occur at any time during the disciplinary process. Sometimes an HOH sends his woman to the bedroom and tells her to wait for him in the corner. This is an example of Corner Time happening even before the spanking has started. Some men may tell the woman to go to the bedroom, remove her clothes and stand in the corner of the room, with her nose pressed into the corner and her hands clasped behind her head. That is a classic example of pre-spanking Corner Time in Loving Domestic Discipline.

Corner Time can of course take place in the middle of the spanking, where it functions as a pause or break between discipline sessions, giving the woman time to catch her breath and reflect on what she has done, as well as what has transpired so far in her spanking. This has already been discussed in an earlier section and need not be repeated here.

Corner Time can also take place after the spanking is over. Sometimes the HOH will hug, comfort and dry the tears of his woman before sending her to the corner, and sometimes he will put her in the corner for a while before taking her in his arms and comforting and forgiving her. Either approach is fine. Choosing which one to use depends on the woman and on the particular severity of the spanking that she has received. An HOH should be reasonably organic, flexible and sensitive when disciplining his woman, so that he can know best how to treat her at any time. The loving connection between them (which is strengthened by Loving Domestic Discipline) helps him to know what she is feeling. When he is in any doubt, though, he simply has to ask her to find out what she is feeling and thinking. Then he has all the information he needs to both discipline and comfort her, as appropriate.

Corner Time can take place in any room of the home, as long as reasonable privacy is maintained. Use your common sense here. The woman must not be given Corner Time in a room that her children might wander into by mistake, or in a room that is too cold for a nude woman to withstand for the duration of her discipline. But as long as these sensible requirements (and any others that may apply) are met, she can be put into any corner of any room of the home.

Conclusion

So although Corner Time is not a compulsory or mandatory part of every discipline for every couple that practices Loving Domestic Discipline, it is certainly a very useful component of the disciplinary process for many couples. If you are currently practicing Loving Domestic Discipline but are not using Corner Time during discipline sessions, it may be worthwhile sitting down and discussing with each other whether it would be a useful addition to your standard spanking procedure. Many women find Corner Time very chastening and salutory in its effects.

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29 thoughts on “How To Do Corner Time Correctly!

  1. I have to serve corner time and it is always humiliating whilst giving me time to reflect on what I have done wrong.

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  2. I think the HOH should stay in the room where his wife is in the corner for her cornertime. Better supervision and it shows you support her. She already is incredibly isolated whilst having to stand in the corner, at least with you present, she knows you mean business and DO CARE. I usually read a book, catch up on bills or read the paper. Never turn the television on because it takes away from her focus.

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  3. In my house corner time is half the punishment. My husband learned from what my dad did. My husband mostly uses a strap and always on the bare. Getting punished is no secret in our house, there is a corner in our living room that is used where, after your punishment you stand nose on the wall with pants (or skirt) and panties off, or if you’re wearing a dress hiked up all around, tucked in the bra in the front Almost never less than an hour. Very often when your corner time is over, we have a family prayer, we all hold hands and say a prayer to ask for God’s continuing guidance, most often the person spanked leads the prayer. If the offense was very bad then you get sent right to bed, sometimes without supper.

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    • Since sometime last year Ben had started punishing me on and off completely nude, with nude corner time if I did something really serious. But Ben told me this morning that after reading the sections on nudity here he is going to use the wedding ring rule from now on, I will have nothing on but a wedding ring when I get a spanking. He told that I must read all the sections that are about this today.

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  4. Christian Domestic Discipline Life – I am experimenting with something new this week. I use all of the nonspanking punishments you recommend and have devised a new one and am curious to what you think. My wife broke the rules of cornertime, she had been there for an hour and rather than restarting her time, which I thought my be overkill, and instead of a serious spanking, I gave her a firm spanking, but not as harsh as I normally would and then told her copy out this article two times. I moved a desk into the corner and told her to write in her best cursive handwriting. SHE WAS FURIOUS, she asked if she could just write lines. I told her that the contents of this article would be very worthwhile for her to write and ponder. I didn’t know many times to make her copy it, so I thought twice would be fairly lengthy but again not overkill……anyhow it took her about two and a half hours and she was not a happy camper. Anyhow, I really think it taught her a lesson and made her more knowledgeable of why I make her stand in the corner and what I expect while she is there. Your thoughts or anyone else?

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    • Hi Mark, sorry for the late reply … Mark here! I think you did the right thing, you need to be consistent with punishments!

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    • Jane’s Husband here.

      Mark, I think it was an excellent idea to have your wife write out the article rather than lines. However, from what you write I get a sense of a lot of rebellion in your wife’s attitude. I really can’t imagine Jane leaving the corner until I tell her tell to. I am not a big fan of non-spanking punishments except in those cases where a spanking was also administered. I know of someone who had the same problem you seem to have, and what he did was to have a four-day CDD booth camp. You need to find time to do this, no kids, if you decide this might work for you. The results that this person I know got were very impressive. It changed his wife’s attitude considerably. There are on line resources that relate how to do a booth camp. Also, these people I know did the booth camp with another couple, which actually made it a bit easier on the wives without losing the good affect of the booth camp. I have actually considered doing this myself, to sharpen things up a bit. Jane is very openly submissive and obedient, but sometime when my attention is diverted she misbehaves in sometimes appalling ways, forcing me to very harsh with her, something I very much would like to avoid.

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      • Thanks Jane’s husband. I have heard of boot camp but don’t know much about it. To be fair to my wife, she didn’t leave the corner, she turned around to see what I was doing. She does this from time to time, thinking I might not catch her. I do believe not keeping her face in the corner is almost as bad as leaving the corner, and you see I also did spank her. Most times, I do give her a spanking, but occasionally nonspanking punishments are good if she is doing something minor and I don’t want it to escalate to a spanking. I do believe that a spanking is generally the best punishment, although cornertime and lines are excellent top ups to go along with a spanking.
        I would love to know more about boot camp, and how much time would be needed.
        Thanks for your input! Much appreciated!

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  5. Your name is Mark too? Small world! Thanks, I agree that consistency is important, but I think creating new punishments is sometimes needed, to be less predictable. That’s why instead of making my wife write lines and made her copy out the article. Don’t get me wrong, I think lines are a great punishment and I definitely utilize them, but I think she gained some insight into why I regularly use and value cornertime when disciplining her. My wife hates displaying her spanked behind, so I think it took her a while to let go of her anger for me insisting she do her written punishment in the corner bare-bottomed.

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  6. Thanks Mark, you feedback is appreciated. I think lines are a great punishment, but sometimes other written punishments can be equally effective. I think the punishment must fit the crime.

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  7. Mark, I misunderstood what you wrote. Things are not bad as I thought. However, it’s a very serious offense for my wife to get angry during punishment. The defeats the whole purpose of punishment. It also means that I am not being sufficiently harsh with her. She needs to be thinking about behaving better, not being angry because she is being punished. But it’s just about punishment. While punishment is needed and important, the real goal is to train a wife to be submissive and obedient. My wife has a strict bedtime and she now has a new dress code, we get all her clothes from Modest Apparel, we order on line. She’s expected to keep the house clean and orderly, meals are expected on time, and while she is allowed comfortable culottes in appropriate situations, I expect her in a dress or skirt when we go out, go to church or visit people etc. BTW culottes are easy to strip off her when she is going to be punished, much easier than jeans which she is not allowed to wear ever. She must be respectful to anyone in authority, like for example, our minister and his wife, all other head of households , police etc.

    When my wife is doing corner time, and there is always corner time after a spanking, I require she have her nose touching the wall with her hands on her hand. She knows she must follow this rule and this makes any movement from the corner very difficult. It also ends up forcing her to stick her behind out. I keep the strap hanging on the wall in the library as a constant reminder of what bad behavior or being lax in her chores will result in. As for the boot camp there’s a lot of information on this on line, there is even a book on Amazon you can purchase.

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    • Hey Jane’s husband;
      Excellent idea about the dress code. I think that is something my wife and I need to explore for sure.
      When I made my wife write out the cornertime article, she didn’t refuse to write, she looked at how long it was and to write it twice, she wasn’t sure how long it would take her. Copying it out involved more thought and care, than writing out the same line over and over. She never refuses her punishment, she did express anger and I usually do not acknowledge the anger. I do allow for this, because I think it’s hard to always accept a punishment with grace. I want to know that a punishment is unpleasant for her. I also make her write out definitions from the dictionary several hundred times for punishment as well.
      As for cornertime, I believe it is a very important and useful punishment (wouldn’t be here, if I didn’t). My wife always has to stand in the corner after a spanking too, but often before as well. I agree with nose touching the corner, that is mandatory in our house too. But by using it before, she is bare bottomed and already ashamed and embarrassed. I think it helps and puts her in a submissive role and when I say ‘over my knee’, she is 100% compliant as she has had a minimum of 30 minutes with standing in the corner reflecting on her poor behaviour and why I will be spanking her.
      I have never had her put her hands on her head, but I think having her behind sticking out could be beneficial, especially after the spanking. I always try to emphasize the importance of her displaying her red behind and I know this is something she despises, but knows it is necessary for her to learn her lesson.
      How long do you make your wife stand in the corner for usually? I may be on the longer side, but I think the message needs to sink in. 30 – 60 minutes if done properly, extra time penalties for breaking the rules.
      I am reading about boot camp, we need to set aside a few days in order to do this correctly. And sometimes, depending on what rule she broke could easily earn her another spanking.
      Wishing you and your wife all the best,
      Mark

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  8. Jane’s Husband here.

    I will reply to both comments. Yes, that’s one source for information on CDD booth camp. I would modify to suit your needs. For example, the person I know who actually this rented a cabin in remote area for a week, the booth camp lasted four days. The added chores to the schedule, mainly because one of the wives had been chronically lax in doing her chores properly, the ladies were not allowed any clothing at all during the booth camp, except aprons for cooking. They kept a strict schedule of spankings and bible study. From what I was told it was very successful.

    It really varies how long corner time is in my house, I would say on average about an hour, usually in the living room, we have a designated corner there for wayward ladies. She often gets put to bed after corner time unless her offense was poor housework then she gets extra chores before bed. With Jane, this almost never happens, she keeps a good house and has food on the table on time. She was trained by her parents to excel at domestic chores from when she was a small child, she is excellent at managing the food shopping and keeping within our food budget. The house is usually spotless.

    Clothes shopping is not an issue we buy all her clothes from Modest Apparel on line including all her underwear, only culottes slips, and comfort bras are allowed as underthings, no obscene underwear, I select the clothing though I do listen to what she prefers, but I get the final say.

    I sometimes have her do corner time before a spanking, though mainly to allow me time to calm down if I am angry. You must never spank your wife angry except for a few swats with your hand on her behind over clothing. During corner time she is not allowed to speak to anyone, except me if I address her, and no family member is allowed to speak to her when she is in the corner. I always use a strap for a real punishment. I want to emphasize spankings are very infrequent except for a not so severe reminder spanking after Jane’s Saturday night bath, before she is tucked into bed. I hope some of this is useful.

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    • Thanks, that was extremely helpful. It sounds like you have your situation completely under control. I think I am still at the ‘try it’ and see if it works stage eg. writing out this article. I am sure there really aren’t any set answer for my question about cornertime, it would be like asking how severe should a spanking be. I am pretty comfortable with using the punishments I do, but was just curious if my wife’s cornertime was too long, I’m pretty sure it wasn’t. I think an hour really allows her plenty of time to reflect and feel the pain of her spanking. I always stand her in the same corner too, that way she knows exactly where to go. You allow others to witness her in this position? I have, on more than one occasion, done the same but only in front of those who fully understand domestic discipline and the punishment. I think having others see her in the corner adds to the punishment, but I don’t want others to think I am unfair or being cruel to her. So only those who either support or use DD. Spanking have not become infrequent yes for us, I would say about once or twice a month. I imagine they will become less frequent over time.
      We also attend church regularly, does your church support DD? I have never dared mention it. Would love to meet a minister who does and I could seek advice from.
      I have been reading about boot camp – sounds intriguing but very time consuming. I like the idea of going out in the woods and turning it into a week of boot camp/then holiday between just us.
      Thanks!
      Mark

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  9. Jane’s Husband here

    Our pastor and his wife practice CDD, but he doesn’t preach it from the pulpit. It was a long time after we joined the church before we both knew the other practiced CDD. He guessed it first, he said he could tell by watching the way Jane behaved, which was funny because I would never have guessed he practiced CDD by his wife’s behavior. We don’t even talk about CDD outside the family except for those we know practice it, That’s not an altogether small number now. CDD is no secret in the family, it’s just accepted as the way Christian homes are run. Our daughters are trained to be submissive and obedient and our sons are (and were, two boys and one daughter are married now) trained to be servant leaders.

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  10. Did you use CDD before having children? It would make it so much easier to administer if we didn’t have to hide it at least in our home. Because we haven’t brought it out into the open, discipline sometimes has to wait until there is privacy and ample time to carry it out. We have two sons 12 and 14 and have been practicing DD for close to a year now. Not sure how they would react knowing their mother was getting a spanking or put in the corner. You make it sound so easy, but I know it takes a lot of work. I imagine once everyone is aware of it, then it is straight forward.

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  11. Jane’s husband

    We started CDD about a year, maybe a little less, after we married. We did not have any children. If your children didn’t grow up from the first years with CDD being an open practice, you should not share anything them. What you can do, is before they marry, sit down in private with each son and daughter and explain what CDD is and why you practice it. Frankly, the odds aren’t good they will be accepting of this and even less that they will find a marriage partner who would find it acceptable. I wish I could tell you something different, but I can’t.

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    • So your children always were around it from the beginning. I only heard about CDD a few years ago, but I guess it has been around a long time. Just curious, did you spank your wife more often in those first few years. Most of the HOH’s that I have spoken to say like yourself, spankings are not common. As I mentioned I give my wife on average one to two spankings a month. I am wondering if by now, they should slow down or maybe the punishment needs to be more severe. She has repeated a few offences occasionally, but most spankings are for something different except for tardiness, which drives me crazy. She has received three punishment spankings for that in the past year.
      How do your kids react when your wife is spanked or standing in the corner? My sons get cornertime when they fight or are disrespectful but like you say I think they would have a hard time seeing Mom with a red behind in the corner. I wish we had done what you had and started way back. Spankings would be infrequent and the boys would be accepting of it. Live and learn! By the way, do you have a first name I can call you or do you want to remain Jane’s husband. Maybe we should talk via email, I can give you my address if you’re game.

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  12. This is important, let me expand a bit on this. If you are lucky enough to start CDD before the children are born here’s why I suggest, this worked for us. From the very beginning the children are made to understand mommies and children need to be spanked by daddy. It’s also important that “mommy” makes clear to the children that gets spanked when she is bad, and this doesn’t mean daddy doesn’t love her. They need to feel safe, that daddy will never really hurt mommy, but sometimes mommies can be bad and must be spanked as they are when are bad. This is because God puts daddies in charge of the family. Also, never spank your wife in front of the children when they are very young. As they grow older, you can be more open about this, you don’t make a point of spanking her in front of them but neither do you hide the fact that she gets spanked. Jane often get spanked in the living room, usually our children avoid being there when she is being corrected or if they must walk through the room they quickly enter and leave.
    You also must treat sons and daughters different. Boys are never spanked after puberty, but daughters are subject to spanking until they marry where they become under their husband’s authority. Whether or not they get spanked after they marry it is completely up their husband, but he must be told it’s an option for him.
    Sons are taught to be protective of their sisters, daughters are taught to be respectful and deferential to their brothers, especially after their brothers are about 16 years old. Will this work for everyone? Who knows it worked for us. Most parents have terrible trouble with teenagers. We found that with our empowered sons that they felt responsible and were seldom a behavior problem. With our girls it was a little different, while they were spanked more often early in their teens, they never went into a full rebellion stage. One curious thing was that my wife became an enabler sometimes for the girl’s misbehavior when the girls became older. I don’t know if this was because of Jane’s personality or this is common. I have posted too much I apologize for that. My name is Ben if you’re willing to post your email address I probably will contact you. I am not willing to post mine to be honest.

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  13. Thanks Ben, you are a wealth of information! And you responded so quickly, I really appreciate it. It’s great to communicate with someone so experienced with CDD. Don’t apologize for posting too much, everything you wrote was worthwhile.
    My email address is mberman80@outlook.com
    I wonder if people are tired of our conversation taking up so much space!

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