How to maintain a woman’s good behaviour and attitude: Maintenance Discipline

Maintenance Discipline is one of the key aspects of Domestic Discipline. It is a very simple concept yet is a highly effective and beneficial practice. Maintenance Discipline involves regular spanking to maintain the woman’s good behavior and attitude. A Maintenance Discipline spanking takes place outside of and separate from any disciplinary spanking that she may receive for specific misbehavior. Importantly, a Maintenance Discipline is also a regular event that takes place at the same interval of time, unlike a disciplinary spanking, which will only occur when the woman needs guidance and physical encouragement to behave properly. So a Maintenance Discipline might occur every day, or every week, or every month, depending on what the couple agree is necessary or depending on what the male HOH decides is necessary for the woman.


This post is a little longer (400 words), so take your time. Here are its chapters:

9 Reasons why Maintenance Discipline is good!

How should a Maintenance Discipline be carried out?

Alternatives to choosing different implements

When the Maintenance Discipline Session is over


9 Reasons why Maintenance Discipline is good!

As just stated, the first reason for giving her a Maintenance Discipline is to maintain her good attitude and behavior. It may seem odd to spank her if she has been behaving well. Some men may prefer to reward her for good behavior, rather than discipline her to prevent future misbehavior. This is both logical and fine. However, the flow of a woman’s emotions is not always governed by logic – it is usually governed by feelings and subtle energy flows which are just as powerful as logic yet have nothing to do with it. A regular Maintenance Discipline spanking serves as a potent reminder to her that a continued good attitude and continued good behavior are required from her. It functions as a regular wake up call to let her know that she needs to continue behaving well and that she cannot let her good behavior lapse into carelessness, disrespect and misbehavior. The pain of a spanking can easily fade away as it recedes further and further into the past. After a while, the woman can forget that she was ever spanked for misbehavior, let alone that it was a painful and unpleasant experience. A Maintenance Discipline will remind her that a punishment spanking really does hurt. It will remind her that she should try to behave in a way that will reduce the chances of her receiving any additional punishment spankings in the future.


The second reason to give a woman a Maintenance Discipline spanking is to catch and punish any misbehavior that may have occurred since her last spanking, whether that was a disciplinary spanking or a Maintenance Discipline. There may have been instances of misbehavior that have slipped her mind since she was last spanked or there may be things that she knows she has done and deserves to be spanked for. A Maintenance Discipline is ideal for dealing with these misbehaviors on a regular basis. It will prevent them from building up and becoming a more serious behavioral issue later on, something which will threaten the harmony of the home and the quality of the couple’s relationship. Maintenance spankings provide the woman with a clean slate so that she can move on with her life and her relationship, free of any lingering feelings caused by unresolved and unpunished misbehavior.

A third reason why a Maintenance Discipline can be very helpful for the woman is that it can provide an opportunity for a journal check. Journaling is a system where the woman keeps a journal (or a diary or an agenda – whatever you want to call it) on a daily basis. In this journal she records her thoughts, feelings, actions and words, especially those relating to Domestic Discipline issues such as misbehavior, disrespect and dishonesty. The journal check usually takes place at a Maintenance Discipline session where the man reads her journal entries from the date of her last journal check or Maintenance Discipline session onwards. By reading her journal, he can find out what she has been thinking and doing. She can write down any misbehaviors, doubts and feelings that have occurred since her last discipline, safe in the knowledge that he will read them and spank her for anything that requires punishment. A journal is an excellent way to make sure that the woman is always held accountable for her actions and that the man disciplines her in a consistent and thorough manner, which will make her feel safe, secure and loved. Without this consistency, she will lose faith in the disciplinary process and what is much worse, she will lose faith in her man and his masculine energy and resolve. Keeping a journal is a wonderful habit for a woman to develop, especially in the context of a Domestic Discipline relationship. And a Maintenance Discipline session is the ideal time to check her journal and to incorporate any necessary discipline into her regular maintenance spanking.

A fourth reason to use regular Maintenance Discipline sessions is that they will help to re-establish the intimate connection or energy flow between the man and the woman. A Maintenance Discipline will reconnect the couple and reopen the flow of masculine energy from the man and the flow of feminine energy from the woman. This beautiful intimacy is the greatest reward of Domestic Discipline. It is what so many women in general crave in their lives and what so few receive, except in the context of a Domestic Discipline relationship. This intimacy and energy flow is what couples experience when their romance is still in full flower. It may last a few months or years but it doesn’t last forever – at least not in most cases. The disciplinary process in Domestic Discipline is probably the best way to rekindle this intimacy and flow, which is why so many women are attracted to it or are curious about it. They are looking to recapture that wonderful feeling of being loved, protected and cherished by their man.

The fifth reason why a Maintenance Discipline can be so useful for a woman is that is has the effect of releasing accumulated stresses that have built up since the last time she was spanked. A spanking functions as a powerful emotional release for a woman, especially when she is spanked long and hard enough to bring her to tears. Tears contain lots of chemicals involved in stress, so a good cry is a wonderful way to reduce stress levels, as most women already know. Erotic spankings do not always have the same emotional releasing effect, although sometimes, for some women, they can. Erotic spankings often lack the same powerful energy flow that a proper punishment spanking has, since they do not usually result in her crying, which is why most women will need either a punishment spanking or a Maintenance Discipline spanking in order to release any negative emotions and attitudes that have built up inside them since their last proper spanking. Some people use the terms ‘Therapeutic Spanking’ or ‘Stress Relief Spanking’ to describe the effect of this kind of Maintenance Discipline.


The sixth reason that a Maintenance Discipline spanking will help the woman and the couple is due to the regular nature of Maintenance Discipline. A maintenance spanking will serve as a strong reminder to the woman that the man is committed to their Domestic Discipline agreement. Some men might not follow through on the agreement that he has made to discipline his woman when her behavior becomes unacceptable. This might be due to fatigue, being too busy or just simply having certain fears and reservations about really taking control of their relationship and giving her the spanking that she so richly deserves whenever she misbehaves. A regular Maintenance Discipline regime is the simplest solution which will overcome any of these problems that might prevent a man from disciplining his woman properly. When she receives a sound and regular maintenance spanking, she will feel that her man is completely committed to their Domestic Discipline agreement.

The seventh reason for using Maintenance Discipline spankings is really just an extension of the previous reason, but it is significant enough to warrant discussion on its own. A regular schedule of Maintenance Disciplines will remind and reassure the woman that her man really cares about her. It will remind her that he cares about her enough to spank her regularly. It will remind her that she is worth the trouble that he must go to in order to enforce a regular Maintenance Discipline schedule.

The eighth reason for giving the woman a regular Maintenance Discipline is a very important one. Many women crave the closeness and intimacy that they share with their husband after he has spanked her for misbehavior or disobedience. They crave the intimacy and the flow of loving masculine and feminine energy that is part of the disciplinary process. This craving can lead the woman to misbehave in order to provoke the man into spanking her. Misbehavior of this kind is called, “bratting.” Bratting can be done consciously. An example of this is when the woman is aware that she wants to be spanked and so she goes and misbehaves on purpose, in a way that her misbehavior is obvious or visible to her HOH. Bratting can also be unconscious, where the woman is misbehaving but is unaware of why she is doing so. The problem with bratting is that is encourages female misbehavior, which is the very thing that Domestic Discipline is designed to reduce! Bratting can be dangerous for the relationship, especially when it is done unconsciously. When a woman brats, she introduces unnecessary disharmony into the relationship. Spanking her will resolve this disharmony, but it is better to avoid the bratting in the first place. And the best way to avoid bratting is, of course, to spank her regularly as part of a Maintenance Discipline schedule. Regular Maintenance Discipline spankings will reduce or eliminate any desire on the woman’s part to brat, because the intimacy and loving energy flow that she craves are supplied automatically as a result of each maintenance spanking.

The ninth reason for using Maintenance Discipline spankings on a woman is to re-establish and encourage submission to her HOH. This reason is connected to the fourth reason (to re-establish profound intimacy and energy flow). The regularity of a Maintenance Discipline obliges the man to take on a dominant role in the relationship on a regularly scheduled basis, whether he feels like it or not. In a sense, Maintenance Discipline can function as a sort of dominance and assertiveness training for the man, because he must take control of his wife or girlfriend via the spanking process. He has to take total control of her body and mind for the duration of the disciplinary process. Thus, the flow of masculine energy from the man is increased as a result of the Maintenance Discipline spanking that he gives her. Similarly, the woman is obliged to submit to a Maintenance Discipline spanking administered by her man. She surrenders all control over her physical, mental and emotional state to him, her Head of Household, until she has been disciplined to his satisfaction. Although she might be able to talk (or yell!) during her spanking, she cannot control the process, because she has submitted to the man. The Maintenance Discipline session is an incredibly intense experience of submission for her. It reminds her that she has agreed to a Domestic Discipline arrangement because there can be only one leader in a household. It reminds her that she has decided to embrace and fulfil her femininity through her conscious and willing submission to her husband’s leadership, guidance and discipline. A good maintenance spanking will remind her that she belongs to him. This feeling of belonging to him, body and soul, is extremely intimate and reassuring for a woman. She feels loved and cherished by him.

Now that we have discussed the reasons for using Maintenance Discipline, the next issue is how should they be done? How should a Maintenance Discipline be carried out? There is no single, simple answer. How a Maintenance Discipline will be carried out is something that each couple needs to work out, or if the woman has agreed that the man will make these kinds of decisions, then it is something that he needs to decide on. There are a number of obvious choices, however.

How should a Maintenance Discipline be carried out?

One way to conduct a Maintenance Discipline is to treat it exactly the same as a punishment spanking. That means to use the same kind of ritual, language, preparation, position and corner time as if the woman is being punished for real misbehavior. It also means that she should receive the same number of spanks (or be spanked for the same period of time) as she would if she were receiving a genuine punishment spanking. Some people consider that this approach to a Maintenance Discipline is the ideal approach, because it provides the woman with a really serious reminder of what will happen to her as a result of disrespect, dishonesty or disobedience. Many feel that there is no point to a Maintenance Discipline if it is just going to involve giving the woman a couple of half-hearted taps on her bottom and then telling her to behave well until the next scheduled session. A weak-willed approach to Maintenance Discipline won’t work. A weak-willed approach to Domestic Discipline won’t work either, which is why it demands so much strength, courage and perseverance from the man. Couples who favor a realistic and serious approach to Maintenance Discipline also usually feel that the woman should be brought to tears as part of the maintenance spanking. If she does not start crying, there is always the risk that her Maintenance Discipline was not sufficiently severe and that she will not remember its seriousness. Of course, crying during or after a spanking has many other benefits for the woman, such as providing emotional cleansing for her, creating closure, releasing stress, encouraging her submission to her HOH and ultimately helping to create the intimacy and flow of loving energy that are at the heart of every Domestic Discipline experience.

Other couples may have a problem with conducting a Maintenance Discipline just like a punishment spanking. They may prefer that the woman is spanked just a little less forcefully than in a normal punishment for misbehavior. She may still shed tears during or after the spanking, but she will not receive the full force of a punishment spanking.


Some people like to use the same technique for a Maintenance Discipline as they would for a punishment spanking. That means that if the woman is punished by being paddled while she is lying over the man’s lap, she will be paddled in exactly the same way when she receives a Maintenance Discipline. Other people prefer to distinguish the Maintenance Discipline from a normal spanking by using a different technique. This can mean spanking her with a different implement. Taking the first example of a woman who is punished by being paddled in an OTK (Over The Knee) position. If her HOH decides to reduce the severity of her spanking for a Maintenance Discipline, he may instead use a leather belt to spank her, since a belt is usually less painful than a paddle. He may even decide to spank her with his hand only, which is even milder on a woman’s bottom than a belt, although a woman can still quite successfully and effectively be brought to tears using handspanking alone.

(It is also theoretically possible to conduct a Maintenance Discipline with more severity than a punishment spanking, but this does not really make a lot of sense and so is rarely, if ever, carried out).

Alternatives to choosing different implements

Instead of choosing a different implement for the woman’s spanking, some men prefer to spank her using the same implement but using less powerful strokes, or to spank her with swats of the same force but for a shorter period of time.

The next issue faced by a couple or by a male HOH when preparing to implement a Maintenance Discipline schedule is to decide how frequently it is going to be used. Ultimately regularity is more important than frequency, but it needs to be decided right from the start. Of course, the schedule can always be changed later, if appropriate. The most frequent possible Maintenance Discipline schedule is daily. Not many couples would use this, except perhaps at the start, because it is obviously fairly serious (not to mention time-consuming) to spank the woman every single day. Sometimes it is useful to start out on a Domestic Discipline course by instituting a Maintenance Discipline every night for one week, after which the frequency is reduced. This kind of intensive use of Maintenance Discipline can also be useful when the frequency has been reduced a lot, eg fortnightly, monthly or even longer, and a deterioration in the woman’s behavior is starting to become apparent. One good solid week of daily (or nightly) spankings is usually enough to put her back on track and steer her away from feminine misbehavior, disobedience, disrespect and dishonesty.

Most couples find that weekly Maintenance Discipline is the ideal frequency in order to maintain the woman’s good behavior and an intimate connection in the relationship. Some females need a Maintenance Discipline twice a week – once on the weekend and once mid-week – but most women only need one serious spanking per week.

The next choice for frequency of Maintenance Discipline would be fortnightly – every two weeks. Other choices are monthly, bimonthly (every two months), quarterly (every three months), half yearly or yearly. Couples who have been using Domestic Discipline for a long time and who find that the woman is generally very well-behaved might only need a Maintenance Discipline once a year, just to give her a sharp reminder of what lies in wait for her if she does decide to misbehave. Most people who use Domestic Discipline do not fall into this category.

It is worth re-emphasizing the most important point about Maintenance Discipline: it should be regular. Lack of regularity destroys the whole method. If a weekly Maintenance Discipline session cannot be carried out one week, due to some good reason such as illness or a work crisis etc, that session should be postponed, not cancelled. If it is cancelled, that means that it will be missed entirely and the woman will not be spanked for another week, which will lengthen the period between consecutive Maintenance Disciplines to 14 days. That kind of break is likely to result in increased frustration and misbehavior for the woman, probably requiring one or more punishment spankings to correct. So it is vital not to cancel a Maintenance Discipline altogether. The better solution is to postpone it for one day. So, for example, if the couple uses a Maintenance Discipline schedule where the woman is spanked every Sunday evening, but one week it becomes impossible to spank her that Sunday, then the Maintenance Discipline should be put off for one day. On the day after – the Monday evening – she should receive her Maintenance Discipline. Her next Maintenance Discipline should take place on the following Sunday, as per usual.


Although it is fine to change the frequency of Maintenance Disciplines as the Domestic Discipline arrangement and the relationship evolves (and hopefully, the woman’s behavior evolves), it is important not to change this frequency too often. The reason is simple – if the man keeps changing the spacing between Maintenance Discipline sessions, regularity will be lost and consistency will disappear. So changes to the frequency of Maintenance Discipline should not occur too often. There are no guidelines for what is too often and what is not, except for the woman’s moods and behavior, which is the whole point of Domestic Discipline.

Some people wonder if a Maintenance Discipline should take place in a different part of the house or garden than a punishment spanking. The short answer is no, it probably shouldn’t. This is because you don’t want to make a Maintenance Discipline too different from a normal discipline. If the woman receives her punishment spankings in the cold and dirty environment of the woodshed but receives her Maintenance Disciplines in the warmth and comfort of the bedroom, obviously she is going to gradually forget that a punishment spanking is far more unpleasant than a Maintenance Discipline. The severity of a Maintenance Discipline can be slightly reduced, compared to a punishment spanking, but the location should not vary too much.

There are many substantial benefits of Maintenance Discipline. The woman is reminded of how a spanking feels. She is reminded that a punishment spanking is painful and unpleasant. She is reminded that she is one half of a couple which has agreed to use Domestic Discipline in their relationship. She is reminded that the man has the right to discipline her for misbehavior and that this right is real, not imaginary. She cannot relegate it to some drunken conversation that took place months ago and which has never been acted on. Domestic Discipline and Maintenance Discipline are real, not imaginary. It is not a threat, it is a reality. Her responsibilities as a woman are also real, not imaginary. She can and will be disciplined for misbehavior. She is reminded that she has a responsibility to behave well, that her feminine caprices will be met with a firm masculine response if they adversely affect herself, the man, their relationship, or anyone else. The woman is reminded that her man, the HOH, is SERIOUS about implementing Domestic Discipline in their household. She is reminded that he expects good behavior from her, not just vaguely acceptable behavior. She is reminded that he has made a serious commitment to her and to their Domestic Discipline arrangement, which requires effort and self-discipline on his own part. She is reminded that Domestic Discipline is a two way street – just as it takes strength on her part to submit regularly to her man, so too it takes strength on his part to discipline her and to hold her to the standards of their household. She is reminded that he loves her enough to spank her. She is reminded that he is fulfilling a deeply masculine role in their relationship and that through her spanking, the correct flow of masculine and feminine energy is restored and reconnected.

When the Maintenance Discipline Session is over

After her Maintenance Discipline is over, she feels loved and cared for. She is enveloped and protected by a strong, masculine force. This force has the strength, love and determination to discipline her when necessary. The post discipline phase is a time of great intimacy and tenderness, a time which should be experienced regularly, rather than only on the occasions when she has misbehaved and deserved a punishment spanking. Maintenance Discipline can provide this experience regularly, in a safe and healthy context. The post discipline phase is where the man comforts and soothes his woman, where he wipes away her tears and reassures her that she is loved and safe and secure. It is often the most intimate time of the week. It is a beautiful time that many women love to experience. Most commonly, it is experienced in the early stages of a (non-Domestic Discipline) romance, when everything is still blissful and wonderful, in spite of any problems that might crop up. For most couples, that stage is short-lived. But Domestic Discipline and especially Maintenance Discipline is a way to experience that level of intimacy and tenderness on a regular basis. Women who are not in a Domestic Discipline relationship wonder how to regain that special intimacy in their couple. Women who know about Domestic Discipline simply smile secretly to themselves and wish that they were able to tell their friends and family about their amazing technique for achieving self-improvement, intimacy and togetherness.


One thought on “How to maintain a woman’s good behaviour and attitude: Maintenance Discipline

  1. I am always excited by the prospect of my HOH’s maintenance discipline. As well as scared. I am in complete agreement with the article’s statement that my behavior isn’t always lead by logic. But those early a.m. strappings serve as both a reproach for past sins and a reminder that I have obligations to my HOH as well as God, and this,( at least for us) is God’s prescribed means of keeping me submitted and obedient.


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