One of the most important aspects of Loving Domestic Discipline is the expression of gratitude. Both the man and the woman should regularly express their appreciation of each other, of course, because this helps their relationship greatly. But it is also very important for the woman to thank her HOH (Head of Household) for disciplining her. Yes, she should thank him for spanking her.
Why should a woman be grateful for being spanked?
After all, it is a pretty unpleasant experience for her which will often end in tears – not the kind of thing that you usually thank someone for.
Well, firstly, she should thank him simply because he has done something for her and it is appropriate that she show her gratitude. After all, she is the primary beneficiary of the spanking, meaning that she is the main person to benefit from the spanking. She will learn better behavior, she will become a better person as a result of it. So it makes sense that she should be grateful for it.
Secondly, she should thank him because she should practice politeness in her relationship with him. It may be that her disrespect for him is the original cause of her spanking, so it is all the more reason why she should behave politely to him afterwards.
Thirdly, she should thank him for her spanking because it is a demonstration that she has learned her lesson.
She is disciplined for a reason – because her behavior has been unacceptable. The spanking is designed to teach her to modify her behavior so that she does not repeat it again. If she just walks away after the discipline, it seems to imply that she still has an attitude of resentment about the whole thing. Taking the trouble to thank her HOH for her spanking shows him that she has learned her lesson and that the discipline has been effective. The fourth reason why she should thank him for spanking her is because his job as HOH is not an easy one.
It is not an easy task to punish the woman you love. It is not an easy task to spank her bottom hard until she cries. It is not an easy task to scold her for her misbehavior. Most men would rather be doing something else than disciplining their wives. Making love, eating, watching TV, playing sports are all more appealing to the average man than wrestling his disobedient wife over his lap and giving her a good spanking. Even men who can see what benefits Loving Domestic Discipline brings to their marriages would often rather be doing something else.
Because disciplining a woman is a tiring and stressful activity for a man. It requires physical effort and strong self-discipline so that she is not spanked too much or too little. Many women complain that their husbands are not consistent enough in enforcing the rules with them, that these women are let off the hook when really they should be soundly spanked.
One way to reduce this lack of consistency is for the woman to properly thank her HOH after he has disciplined her, so that he realizes that she is grateful for his efforts. Her thanks tell him that she appreciates his strictness in keeping her behavior to a high standard, for helping her to be the best person she can be. Her thanks tell him that she recognizes his work to enforce her limits and to maintain domestic harmony in their relationship. If more men were thanked after a Loving Domestic Discipline session, there would be fewer problems with inconsistency when it comes to maintaining and enforcing rules in the home.
What should a woman thank her HOH for, exactly?
Should she just say, “Thanks” through gritted teeth before stumbling morosely off into another room? Obviously that does not sound like a recipe for domestic harmony. She should think about what she actually wants to thank him for or needs to thank him for. Firstly, she should thank him for disciplining her. As mentioned previously, disciplining is a tiring and physical job which can be made even more tiring if the woman struggles a lot or attempts to cover her bottom with her hands.
Of course, Disobedience Discipline is designed to correct this problem, but that is a further expenditure of effort to enforce. So it is appropriate that the woman should thank her HOH for the physical effort he has taken to spank her. Another reason for her to thank him is for his self-discipline in spanking her. He firstly has had to steel himself to do an unpleasant task – that of spanking her. He has had to make sure that he has not spanked her so hard that he has bruised her, but he has had to spank her enough to hopefully bring her to tears. He has had to ignore the fact that he loves her and hates to see her unhappy, yet he has had to spank her until she cried. Against his own natural desires, he has had to make her unhappy himself. That surely deserves some kind of thanks.
He has helped her to overcome her negative behavior that was the reason she was spanked in the first place. This gets back to the original meaning of discipline, which is teaching or education. He has taught her a lesson so that now she knows something that she didn’t know before she was spanked. In fact, he has given her something – the gift of learning. She has learned a lesson, thanks to him. Although it has been a painful lesson, it has probably saved her from learning a much more painful lesson at the hands of life. She could learn the lesson outside the home, but it would probably be much harsher and more permanent. If she is spanked for driving carelessly or badly, think how much worse her lesson would be if she killed an innocent person because she was driving too fast. A spanking is mild by comparison. If she is spanked for being rude to her HOH, it is a much easier lesson than losing her job for being rude to her boss.
She should thank her HOH for bringing her to tears, if she has cried during or after her spanking. It takes a certain amount of patience, commitment and determination to successfully bring a woman to tears during a spanking, as many spanked women already know. As discussed in the article “Tears,” it is very important to make a woman cry when she is being spanked because it helps the disciplinary process so much. So it is fitting that she express her gratitude to him if she has been brought to tears as part of her discipline.
Part of being brought to tears is the incredible emotional release that it gives the woman. This is often described as “stress relief” because it releases many built-up stresses inside her, some of which may be responsible for her misbehavior in the first place. So not only does crying help the disciplinary process, but the release of stress that accompanies her tears is also a valuable benefit. She should thank her HOH for this relief of stress as a result of the spanking too.
One thing that many women find profoundly beneficial about Loving Domestic Discipline is that the spanking helps them to feel that their guilt has been washed away by their punishment. Without the emotional intensity of a spanking, guilt can linger and remain almost indefinitely. The sound and fury of a spanking and the tears that accompany it all tend to clear away any residual guilt that she may hold as a result of her own misbehavior. Her spanking is also a gift because it removes her guilt. This is something that she should be grateful to her HOH for. Along with this removal of guilt is an associated feeling of having the slate wiped clean – her misdemeanours have been corrected, her dues have been paid and her punishment has been inflicted on her. She has nothing else to answer for. Her debts have all been paid. Some women might wish that their credit card companies were as easily appeased as their HOH!