Why did God give women brains if they’re not supposed to use them…?
I don’t want to be a doormat…
Poor Leah. Her husband is a monster…
It seems everywhere I turn lately somebody has the wrong idea of what being a submissive wife means. It seems the definition has been completely turned on its head and few seem to understand what it really entails. So for starters, let me tell you what being a submissive wife is NOT.
A submissive wife is not a silent, timid little wraith who fears to open her mouth to voice an opinion. She is not a doormat, and she is certainly not abused.
Wives who have chosen to obey God’s command to be submissive in their marriages come in all shapes, sizes, and personality types. Many of them are in positions of authority in their jobs, they are leaders in appropriate areas of their churches and communities, and they are strong, independent mothers. They are educated and intelligent, they voice their opinions, and they are competent helpmeets to their husbands. They have simply made the choice to submit to their husbands’ leading in their homes and marriages.
According to dictionary.com, the definition of submission is: an act of submitting to the authority or control of another.
It’s as simple as that. A submissive wife chooses to abide by the final decisions of her husband and to obey what he tells her to do. Most submissive wives actively participate in the decision-making process of the home, and most husbands with submissive wives actively seek out their wives’ opinions, especially on important matters. Furthermore, many submissive wives testify that their opinion holds much more sway over their husbands’ decisions that it ever did before she was willing to submit to his authority. Something about having a submissive wife causes a husband to want to please his wife, whereas a stubborn or disobedient woman only makes him more determined to have his own way.
I am not saying that being a submissive wife is always easy. Just as it is never easy to lay down your own will for another’s, submission in a marriage is no different. I’m simply saying that being a submissive wife does not require you to *act* a certain way or fit into a certain mold. It requires a lot of prayer and maybe even a lot of practice, but it doesn’t require that you lose your own unique personality.