The benefits of clear rules in Domestic Discipline

This is a guest post: the benefits of clear rules in Domestic Discipline. One of my readers will describe her life in this post.

Introduction: The benefits of clear rules in Domestic Discipline

Recently, I’ve been exchanging emails with one my readers, Becky. She’s a submissive wife and offered to send me a testimonial for Domestic Discipline. Since I love reading those, I said yes, and since Becky is ok with this piece being published, I am publishing it here.

If you liked it, please consider leaving a comment – is your household similar? What is your situation? I’m looking forward to a discussion such as the ones on other articles here. The following post is written by Becky. Thanks for sharing this, and if you, dear reader, also want to share your thoughts, please leave a comment or contact me directly.

Written by Becky:

The importance of rules and consequences

We did not take up domestic discipline for more than 15 months after we married but did so at my request. It has helped me to behave better both in fulfilling my role as a wife, carrying out Church work and in my career. I have a responsible job as a Doctor so I do not have a weak personality. In fact I believe I am right a lot of the time and at work spend my time making many decisions. Our first six months of using domestic discipline were bumpy and I frequently had to receive additional punishments for resisting the maintenance discipline I had requested and agreed was appropriate. I found the lack of clarity as to what I should or should not do resulted in me testing boundaries inappropriately and made me resistant to punishments I was (I realise in hindsight) quite rightly allocated by my husband.

The major improvement in my behaviour was achieved by us agreeing a clear set of rules and potential sanctions for non-compliance.

The one thing which helped most was something we picked up from reading another blog where a lady was as a punishment made to wear a school uniform or second hand clothing – in her case sometimes for long periods. After much discussion I accepted that being confined to school uniform immediately I offended and having a clear process from then would help me improve which it has.

If I have broken the rules or I do not accept my maintenance discipline appropriately I have to put on my uniform of blue shirt, striped school tie, white pelerine knee socks, grey tunic (pinafore) and either a grey V neck jumper or cardigan and stand facing the wall with my hands behind my back in our hall to consider my misbehaviour.

When my HoH thinks I have had long enough I stand whilst he describes my offences(s) as he sees them and I must then apologise. If the offence has occurred as part of my maintenance discipline then this spanking is reapplied in full and I receive further punishment. Otherwise having apologised I am sent back to face the wall for a further period to consider how I might expect to be punished and how I will avoid a repetition of my offence(s). Finally HoH brings me back and again standing he tells me how I am to be punished.

First benefits of Domestic Discipline for the wife

This procedure has really helped minimize my indiscretions and over the last almost four years I have reduced my frequency of misbehaviour. I think it is the immediate effect of being but in uniform which is a punishment but also quickly shows me that if I behave in an immature way I will be treated as this deserves. I think the time facing the wall also gives me time to reflect on my mistakes and accept the consequences as well as make me think how I can avoid future repetition.

These are the rules we agreed as we discovered the need for greater clarity both for my HoH and myself. They have been modified as needed by regular review. These changes have been made based on our experience and my need at one point for both a greater degree of restriction on what I wear outside work and a more severe level of sanction at which time the punishment of having to wear school uniform was introduced.

Domestic Discipline: Becky’s rules

  • 1) I will support HoH in his work.
  • 2) I will maintain our household in a well-organized and functioning manner. I will do all cooking, grocery shopping, cleaning and laundry to a high standard.
  • 3) I will put HoHs needs first in scheduling my activities.
  • 4) I will not do anything which could be viewed as unsafe, disrespectful, unsociable or breaks the law.
  • 5) I will dress at all times outside of work in a plain, feminine and conservative manner.
  • a. This means I will always wear a dress which reaches below my knees with long sleeves and a high neck and collar or skirt (which reaches below my knees) and long sleeved blouse with a high neck and collar.
  • b. Flat plain shoes or sandals
  • c. Sweater or cardigan as needed
  • d. Plain ¾ length coat if necessary
  • e. Beret or gloves as necessary
  • f. I will never wear trousers, jackets or casual shoes outside work.
  • 6) I will make all of my clothes worn outside of work myself by dressmaking and knitting except for underwear.
  • 7) I will wear my hair brushed back and in a ponytail or bun.
  • 8) I will wear no or minimal make-up.
  • 9) I will seek approval for all purchases, other than grocery spending, from HoH.
  • 10) I will behave in a respectful and humble manner in presence of HoH as well as in a respectful manner in my interactions with others.
  • 11) I must make clear proactively any failure to comply with the rules and be honest about what these failings are.
  • 12) I must facilitate the disciplinary process and must never hold up or stall the process. This includes trying to justify my behaviour in a way to avoid discipline.
  • 13) I must accept HoHs decision on punishments to be applied.
  • 14) I must never attempt to avoid the full pain, humiliation and/or discomfort of my deserved punishments.
  • 15) I will always apologize for my misbehaviour before receipt of corporal punishment and any other items as appropriate.
  • 16) I will always thank HoH after receipt of corporal punishment or other items as appropriate.
  • 17) I will remain silent unless invited to speak whilst receiving punishment.
  • 18) I will always address HoH as “Sir” at all times whilst under discipline for offences and receiving “maintenance discipline”.
  • 19) I will receive a minimum of one allocation of “maintenance discipline” per week. This will typically be a spanking by hand but may also use a hairbrush, paddle or clothes brush accompanied by corner time.
  • 20) If I fail to admit any failure to comply with the rules in a timely manner as a minimum my punishment for the transgression will be at least doubled.
  • 21) For any offence involving lying, deceit or spoken disrespect as a minimum I will in addition to any other sanctions have my mouth washed with soap and water every day before going to bed.
  • 22) I will be proactive in seeking and sharing alternative disciplinary sanctions which can be used to insure my compliance with our rules and helps me to improve my behavior further.
  • 23) We will review my behaviour and the rules a minimum of once per year to determine if any changes are required. Changes to the rules will only be made by agreement of both HoH and myself.
  • 24) I will accept all of the following forms of punishment in whatever combination or volume HoH decides is appropriate based on my misbehaviour (I have no role in determining the quantity and/or length of any punishments):
  • a. Corporal punishment applied with the hand, slipper, wooden or plastic ruler, hairbrush, paddle, cane or strap.
  • b. Corporal punishment may be applied to my hands and behind and thighs. Applications to my behind and thighs may be to the clothed or unclothed target.
  • c. Written punishments – writing of essays, lines, copying of texts. This may be done under detention conditions e.g. confined to a desk and chair in the box room if greater severity is appropriate.
  • d. Corner time – should normally accompany all corporal punishment as well as a standalone punishment. Time may be spent simply standing or with nose or forehead against the wall, hands folded behind my back or on my hips or my head.
  • e. Early bed time – I will dress in my nightclothes and be in bed by a suitably early hour with the lights off. This may be without supper where increased severity is appropriate.
  • f. Grounding – I will not leave the house (unless for specific activities or under supervision) for a defined period.
  • g. Curfew – I will not leave the house after a specified time.
  • h. Mouth washing – I will have my mouth washed with soap and water under supervision. I will not be permitted to rinse my mouth or at least 3 hours after application. For severe or multiple offences I may be made to stand with a bar of soap in my mouth.
  • i. Privilege withdrawl – the following can be removed or restricted
  • i. Use of car
  • ii. Credit card use/cash for spending.
  • iii. Watching TV
  • iv. Listening to the radio or other audio devices
  • v. Access to magazines or newspapers
  • vi. Access to the internet
  • vii. Using a computer
  • j. Allocation of additional house or garden work
  • k. Confinement to the wearing of a school uniform within the house and to Church events and activities.
  • l. Additional work as penance, for example making school uniform for my own punishment, needlework exercises such as having to sew buttons to material for defined periods
  • 25) The following modes of punishment are not permitted
  • a. Corporal punishment applied with a rubber hose, birch or whip.
  • b. Discipline in front of others except wearing of uniform to Church activities or in presence of my mother-in-law
  • c. Wearing of school tie to Church activities if wearing as part of serving a school uniform punishment

The rules and Domestic Discipline

They look quite severe when written down but if I fulfill my submissive role then the punishments are not required. If I fail to comply willingly and well, as I sometimes do, then it is clear to me the potential consequences. This has helped me to improve in my role as a submissive wife, be more devoted in my Church activities and made me a more empathetic person to work with in my medical work.

I would appreciate any suggestions based on others experience which would make these rules more robust even if they might mean more severe consequences if I misbehave or make these rules stricter.

I am sure that those beginning their domestic discipline journey may also benefit from agreeing transparent rules and potential punishments.

51 thoughts on “The benefits of clear rules in Domestic Discipline

    • Maybe you could elaborate a little on this babygirlanna. It is cool, but it’s a bit of a chore trying to figure out exactly what is used in your home. And we might like to engage on the topics a bit with you.

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      • After Reading what I just read, what YOU just wrote hamiltonman I will not engage into ANY Conversation with you or ANY of your fetish thoughts, you clearly have zero respect toward women, and you clearly think a woman has an object and a thing instead of a person, And my husband wants me having absolutely no Communication with such fools like you. But on a clear note we will for sure pray for you.

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  1. my corporal punishement can be applied to my face also my master slaps me very hard until his handprints are on my both cheeks.it’s hard to present your behind and thights and especially your face but the next day i’m proud of bearing his handprints and after the punishement i should kiss his hands and the tool he had spanked me with showing him that i’m very grateful.women,do your husbands slap you sometimes on face and how hard it was ?

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    • Submissive forever, I never refer to Winston as my “master” rather he is my HOH. He would never slap my face as he doesn’t think that’s an appropriate form of punishment but he does spank my bottom very hard, and when I have really misbehaved , he has made me kiss the naughty stick after my discipline. I think we are lucky to have such strict husbands, who lead us away from sinful behaviour and have our best interests at heart. I would be a bit wild without Winston’s loving correction (although I am glad he has never slapped my face as neither he nor I think it’s right).

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      • jade, you are lucky, my HOH thinks that my face should be slapped everyday, at least 4 slappings, two slaps before he goes to work and two after his return, i know better as a submissive wife to not question the HOH authority but what can i do ? how can i cainvaince myselfe that this punishement is fair? my master think that i have some hesitation obeying him in this and this is very dissprectful to him? I’m afraid heb may add some extra punishements

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    • I don’t. I only feel comfortable slapping my wife’s behind as I feel the face is veers in the direction of physical abuse. It would be more like beating than a punishment.

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    • I’m sorry if I used unfamiliar vernacular. When “hoagie slapping”, the husband uses his penis as the instrument to deliver the disciplinary blows typically to the face, although any target is fair if the husband seems it so.

      One key distinction that must be observed in the instance is whether the hoagie slapping is being administered in a disciplinary vs. erotic vein, as this act is suited for either. Under no circumstances must the wife confuse play time with punishment time.

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    • Submissive Forever, basically you should not have to convince your “master” that slapping your face is fair or not. It quite categorically is not only NOT fair, it is abuse. He should know that. Also he is not your master, he is your HOH. You seem to be more in a master/slave relationship which allows him to treat you badly. Ask yourself, do you actually have any fun with this man, do you have a laugh together? I don’t know how old you are,but as a young woman, if I was being subject to face- slappings and spankings every day ,the thought of spending the rest of my life like that, would make me think of leaving. Does he ever treat you with respect and kindness? I don’t know what to say.You appear frightened to me and that is not right.

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      • Submissive forever, I apologise if my comments re your HOH are out of place, but I can’t help feeling worried about you. I want you to have some enjoyment in life as I am sure any person, Christian or not, would wish the same for you.

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      • jade thank you for taking time to respond my question, my husband is very very kind , i’m sure that i’m not in master/slave relationship but i dont know what’s going on in his mind, when i complain about it he said there’s no difference between face cheeks and bottom cheeks they are all the same for me, expect one difference that your face is more accessible, i don’t know but i think he has some fetish doing so.

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    • Definitely no face slapping. I think that is demeaning and is done to cause fear of the husband. I think it is shameful and not done in a loving way. It makes me sad to think that this could be used as a way to break down a wife instead of doing it to build her up. It really hurts my heart.

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  2. We are a facing a paradoxical challenge. One one hand, we are keen to adopt a cuckold dynamic to our marriage, which necessarily implies some aspect of submission to her exploits. On the other hand, we seek to maintain the discipline dynamic in which she is the object of discipline.

    Is this even possible? If so, how would it work? We’re considering the concept of compartmentalizing the cuckolding so that, during those discrete periods of time, her satisfaction and needs take precedence over mine and she is fully free to express that part of herself. Then, back in the normal realm of a discipline lifestyle, she would be firmly punished in proportion to the nature of her acts both for her lack of self-control in taking such base indiscretions and to compensate for her “borrowing” the dominance for that instance. We can both live with this arrangement. But what are we missing?

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    • Chip, have you thought of the cuckold possibilities in terms of making your wife submit to another man for your viewing pleasure? I have sometimes done that with my wife. I sometimes share her body with other men for their and my enjoyment. Depending on the situation, I might make one of the conditions that they give her a certain number of orgasms, for instance. Or I might insist that they fuck her ass or her throat or whatever. You could also add a girlfriend for you into the mix, where she would jack you off or give you a blowjob or fuck you while you watch your wife getting fucked.
      Another version I’ve engaged in is telling my wife’s bull what to do with her. That way I maintain control over the situation. I’ve done that while having another woman service me while I watch.

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      • Hamiltonman, You are a card!! I suspect you read this catalogue of masochism on the part of Becky, in the same vein as HotwifeKatrin. I don’t know how I came across this crazy site but nothing about it seems very Christian to me. Indeed I am reading it with a mixture of fascination and horror. Although I have to say you and Katrin have given me a chuckle! You need to be careful however. Becky is quite likely to take up Katrin’s suggestion and by next year after her behaviour review, be tending to her patients with a shaved head! Although Becky may enjoy this humiliation, her patients may find this dramatic change in appearance somewhat disconcerting. Ho

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      • How is this anything to do with Christian marriages…? Having other men use your wife? Where do you get off participating with people trying to do this in a marriage and based on the Bible. The Bible never said to force your wife to have sex with another man.

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      • The suggestion of having your wife offered to another man is abhorrent and has no place in a domestic discipline arrangement.

        I, contrary to what is suggested here, take no pleasure from being punished but accept sanction if I misbehave. The purpose of punishment is for my discomfort, correction and learning. We would not therefore for example accept my hair being shaved completely as this may discomfort others.

        The discipline I have received and the knowledge that I will be punished if I misbehave has helped improve my behaviour. It is now more than three months since I have been disciplined for misbehaviour other than my weekly maintenance spanking and associated corner time.

        I think you would be mistaken if you believe a submissive wife derives pleasure from being punished as this is the consequence of her failing to be what she most wants to be.

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    • We have made this work, Chip, something like what hamiltonman suggests.
      My Hoh knows I like to fuck young boys when they are 18 or 19 and in need of guidance with an older woman. When I’ve been good for a while, he’ll find a young man that fits the bill and supervises the arrangement.
      I dress super sexy and seduce the boy. Up we go to a hotel room and Hoh directs and records the encounter. He tells me what to do and also the boy. Sometimes that even includes a spanking for me.
      Hoh also gets very excited by seeing me fucked deep in my bum and then throat-fucked. I have to admit it excites me, too.
      I hope you and your wife can find a way forward for everyone’s sake.
      Hot kisses, Amy

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    • Ive had my head shaved. And it was incredibly traumatising. I was living with my husbands family when he worked away and my father in law strictly adhered to 1 Corinthians 11. People who suggest similar have no idea what its like to be dishonoured, its more significant then a punishment.
      This site attracts a lot of shadow.

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  3. Amy Amilf,what you are saying is a sin , a big sin , i think this is not appropriate , i guess this is not the purpose of this site at all ,please we don’t need satan here

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    • Oh, submissive forever, I’m sorry you are offended. Chip was looking for suggestions regarding cuckolding and hamiltonman has a suggestion and I endorsed it because I’m a hotwife in a CDD relationship.
      I don’t see anything sinful here.

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  4. Submissiveforever do not be harsh on Amy ; “For with what judgement ye judge, ye shall be judged”. Matthew 7 v 2. Go in peace with the Lord.

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    • jade, if you consider my comment to Amy as “harsh”, i can canconsider yours harsh too, i was not rude to anyone here , i only expressed my opinion, so don’t judge me please.

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      • Submissive forever I am so sorry if you misconstrued my comment. I am most certainly not judging you. I
        merely meant that we are all subject to God’s judgement and He is the one who will ultimately judge us at the end of life. Please forgive me, I did not mean to offend you, Hallelujah, Jesus Christ is Lord.

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  5. Gosh Becky You are a beacon of submission to which other women should perhaps aspire. The only thing that puzzles me is how do you have time to carry out the punishments decreed by your HOH, especially when you are in a demanding profession as a doctor. I mean I can imagine the occasional written punishments such as a 100 lines or so, but you must be spending hours carrying them out.Also you make all your own clothes and even make school uniform for your own further punishment. How do you have time when you are a key worker in such a time of crisis with Covid19? I hope you don’t think I am being impertinent asking these questions. If so I humbly apologise. I can only just about sew on a button so I do admire your expertise as a needlewoman! I have just qualified as a quantity surveyor after 4 years at university and a year doing my Assessment of Professional Competence (APC) and I certainly would not have passed it if rather than studying, I had been carrying out numerous extra punishments demanded by my HOH. I suppose other than my profession,my expertise lies in gymnastics, which is why ,before lockdown,my HOH had me stand on my head in the corner when I was extremely rude to him. I know I deserved being there for the 10 minutes he decreed, and I also deserved the hard spanks across my backside which he gave me with his 4×4 100 relay baton (he is very athletic) while I was in that humbling position. After I had apologised for my rudeness and thanked my HOH for his discipline, we went straight to the gym and I had to wear my longest most cover up leotard to conceal the marks of correction as in these liberal times they would have raised a few eyebrows! The only other thing that intrigues me (and again I apologise for any perceived impertinence) is when you go to church in school uniform, aren’t some of your patients there, and what do they think of seeing their doctor dressed in that fashion? Also is it not very embarrassing having your mother-in-law supervise your punishments when your HOH is away. Couldn’t you just carry them out on your own and swear on the bible that you would do so? I was once standing in the corner with my skirt up and panties down (not on my head this time!) when I heard the doorbell ring. My HOH told me to stay in position, but he would not let the person at the door (our neighbour) see my shame. I was very thankful for that as I don’t think i could bear it. I see you get caned sometimes.Such a harsh instrument of discipline. My HOH once said he was going to punish me the old fashioned way and cut a switch. I presume this must be similar to a cane. Well , I have never experienced pain like it (I haven’t had children yet) and when he saw the welts appearing on my bottom he stopped and apologised. (I was screaming blue murder at the time which I know is disobedience but I couldn’t help it). He immediately began kissing my poor, injured butt, profusely and apologised so much,I almost felt sorry for him! You must have a high pain threshold. Anyway that was the last time my bottom ever experienced the switch. I know I can be a bit wild and deserve the few punishments my HOH metes out, but you don’t sound wild at all and I can’t imagine ever getting so many punishments. Once again I apologise for asking so many questions .I sincerely hope you don’t have to relate my very unusual punishment to your HOH, for consideration, as I have been doing gmynastics for the last 20 years , since I was 5 years old , and it’s not a real hardship for me to stand on my head in the corner! (Although getting swatted with his relay baton does add a further dimension to it).

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    • I know Hamiltonman is considering the above punishment for his wife as she was a dancer and is very flexible. And by the way I tried the acrobatics you suggested for your wife Hamiltoman, and I am happy to inform you it does work !

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    • Jade,

      I was fortunate that my domestic discipline did not begin until after I had qualified and started work. My role as a submissive wife does keep me busy alongside my role as a doctor. By keeping me occupied with the house hold tasks helps me avoid spending time becoming self-absorbed and I am prevented from becoming arrogant by focus on menial but important chores whilst ensuring my HoH is happy and satisfied.

      Since Covid has started I have to admit I have not spent much time sewing or knitting but I have sufficient non-work clothing that this has not been an issue. It does not matter if I have to wear one of my existing dresses more often as long as I remain modestly dressed.

      Serving punishments does reduce any free time that I have but that is, of course, a deserved consequence for misbehaving. When I am sat writing out punishment lines or stood facing the corner with my hands on my head the waste of my time is one of the things I reflect on. This loss of my free time if I behave immaturely and disobediently is a deterrent to misbehaviour.

      It is very embarrassing when my HoH is away and my mother-in-law administers my punishments and even as sometimes when she is present with my HoH as I serve my punishments. I am sure you can imagine my humiliation when she has me bend over, lifts my skirt and slippers me. Again the onus is on me to behave correctly as I know the potential severity and humiliation of the punishments I will receive if I am stupid enough to not comply.

      I have to wear school uniform immediately when I misbehave until HoH decides my punishments for what I have done. This has helped me quickly recognise my misbehaviour, reflect on my childish behaviour and accept the status I have reduced myself to by failing to be polite and compliant. It has enabled me to be accepting of the punishment consequences of my failings. Being made to wear school uniform in public is a very severe punishment which thankfully I have only served on a couple of occasions. It was fully deserved. It was exceedingly humiliating and I know that it made a wider set of people at our Church aware of my position and of course that I had misbehaved. I felt very self conscious and made me feel childish and demure which is the impact I deserved for what I had done wrong.

      I am not punished too frequently as the clear rules and punishments have helped me to improve my submission and behaviour. I have been caned a few times and it is horrible and painful and sitting is very painful thereafter. I am sure, like me, when you were stood in the corner with your knickers around your ankles and striated bottom on display you were very regretful of what you had done wrong and were telling yourself how you must improve and comply in the future.

      I hope this answers your queries.

      Becky

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      • Thanks Becky for your reply. I have only worn school uniform once as an adult; that was when I went to a fancy dress party as a St. Trianian’s sixth former. My HOH said I looked hot and had difficulty keeping his hands off me ! It must be very humiliating having your mother in law spank you. I can’t imagine many submissive women agreeing to that. It also seems a bit odd that she participates in your punishments. Does she also get spanked by her HOH? Like you, I am deeply regretful after physical chastisement and I thank Winston for correcting me. He tells me that every mark of discipline on my punished bottom is a mark of his love, in his quest to modify my behaviour and help me to be the submissive and obedient wife that befits a CDD relationship. He will usually apply a soothing lotion to my striations (as long as I am displaying genuine remorse) and then because he has a lot of sexual energy after thoroughly strapping my backside, Winston will want to make love. I never refuse !!

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      • Jade,

        It is very humiliating when my mother-in-law supervises me and carries out my punishments. My HoH is frequently away due to his job, although thankfully not currently, and to ensure I did not use this as a mechanism to avoid receipt of my punishments for misbehaviour as well as a more severe humiliation I agreed that my mother-in-law should be permitted to punish me. She is not herself subject to domestic discipline.

        Even when HoH is present I am not spared being seen by my mother-in-law serving any punishments I have earned by misbehaving. It is,as you mentioned earlier, humiliating to be seen for example having to stand in the corner with my hands on my head after being spanked or being sent to bed early like a naughty little girl.

        It is humiliating but it has helped me to improve my compliance and submission.

        Becky

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  6. Amy don’t be too upset.Remember Jesus himself said “He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone “. I always remember that when I am getting a spanking, as should any Godly woman in a CDD relationship.

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  7. Yesterday I thought i would try and be very outwardly submissive in my dress. A charity shop has just reopened in my town (UK) and I noticed a long, plain grey dress with a large white, puritan type collar. I am a
    hot looking 25 year old (excuse my immodesty) and usually wear a short skirt, tight top and stilettos. I thought if I bought that dress and an accompanying pair of brown lace up shoes I saw in my size, my HOH might be pleased that I was endeavouring to squash my prideful nature. The dress had a dry cleaning label attached so I thought it’t was probably safe from Covid19. Furthermore it wasn’t too much larger than my slim size,so I thought if I was going to go down the submissive dress route, at least I wouldn’t look too ridiculous. I picked it up on the way home from work and changed into it when I got home, waiting for my HOH’s reaction when he got in. He just said “What the heck are you wearing and what are those awful things on your feet?” I told him I had dressed this way to make myself more submissive and less prideful. He just told me to take them off and said that he could think of plenty of ways to make me more submissive without dressing like somebody from the 17th century. So I changed into my Anne Summers lace detail Cherryanne chemise in purple and HOH said that was more to his taste, and we had a really good evening with him showing me some alternative methods of submission.

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    • Hmm, I think the Cherryann in purple is much better, jade. I agree with Winston. I would want you to dress for my pleasure.
      And yes, I’d give you a pass for good intentions.

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      • Thanks Hamiltonman. You are such a caring HOH just like my Winston. We submissive wives are so lucky to have God fearing men like you and my HOH to lead us on our CDD voyage .

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  8. Like Becky above, Winston (HOH) has decided I must follow Rules number 1, 4, 10, 13, 15, 16,and 24 1-vii.
    Unfortunately he is now deciding whether rule number 9 (seeking approval for all purchases other than groceries) applies to me. I don’t think that’s fair as I earn my own money as a recently qualified quantity surveyor. He said that even though I had a good Christian intention when I bought the plain clothing, and the money itself went to the British Heart Foundation, I should have run it past him first and asked his permission.
    Consequently I am to receive a spanking later today. I think this is really unfair as the rule wasn’t in place then, but I know I have to accept his decision. I am hoping it’s just an over the knee hand spanking, as I really did have good intentions. I really fear the loopy Johnny and the naughty stick (small cane) so I am hoping those will not be chosen as my instruments of correction. I never have to follow rule number 2 as we both work full time and we share all housework and cooking. Oh well, I know I consented to receiving corporal punishment for misbehaviour as part of a CDD lifesyle, I just think it’s unfair when I am to be disciplined for a rule that was not in place when I committed the so called misdemeanour. What do you think Becky?

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  9. Phew !! I was allowed to plead my case to Winston, and he has decided that as my intentions were so good when I purchased the charity shop clothing and the rule about seeking permission for purchases was not then in place, he has decided to reprieve me from the spanking. He is such a reasonable HOH..He said because I argued my case with restraint and respect that he would let me off this time. I think if I had been loud and aggressive in my argument,I would definitely still be in receipt of punishment. Like many of you I feel so blessed to have an HOH who is leading me with kindness,yet firmness, in this CDD journey. What do the rest of you think? Would your HOH have let you off ? Or if you are an HOH would you have shown the same mercy towards your TIH? I feel so thankful to have an HOH such as Winston.

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    • Jade,

      I think it would have been unfair to retrospectively punish you for failing to comply with a rule that was not in place at the time. This is why I am grateful we have clear agreed rules so I know what is expected of me.

      I would not have been able to plead as it is not my place to do so if HoH decides I have misbehaved and must accept the deserved punishments which follow as he decides.

      I think this ended in the right place but of course you must ensure you do not repeat the offence now it is clear you must ask permission for such purchases in the future.

      Becky

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  10. Also if any of you are wondering why my husband has such an old fashioned name, It’s because his parents were stoic British Bulldog types and named him after our wartime prime minister. (Although my Winston is tall and slim and does not smoke a cigar!)

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